I feel like we've narrowly escaped a disaster. I sat at home yesterday sick with frustration and disappointment when my BF called me 20 minutes after he was supposed to pick SS up to ask for the number to the Sheriff's office. BM had no plans of letting SS go on the three-day-long visit if she could help it.

BF showed up about 10 minutes early to pick SS up. SS started walking out to the car and BM told BF that he would have SS back that night, pick him up the next morning, etc. BF whipped out those divorce papers (that I told him to bring for just this reason!) and said no, he'd get him like he's supposed to get him and it says so right HERE. BM told SS to get back in the house, that he was NOT going. Several members of her family tried to explain that she had no choice, that SS had to go and there was nothing she could do, but she kept yelling and screaming and stomping around (in front of everyone, even the children and SS). She won't listen to reason from anyone, even her own mother and father who were both trying to rationalize with her. BF sat outside and watched this for 30 minutes, then called me.

Apparently, when he was on the phone with the Sheriff's office, BM was on the phone with the county clerk trying to figure out a way that she could not let SS go on visitation. They told her that she signed the papers and there wasn't really anything she could do about it, but if he didn't go then she could get royally screwed. So, bit$%&ng and screaming, she packed a bag for SS and let him go about an hour late.

I got a few choice emails from BM (well about 25, really, but who's counting). Some of them are just so...interesting?...that I'd like to share them.

I think I will check in to having my atty subpoena your blogs since I’m sure they are chocked up full of stuff about me and SS. That could get interesting as could taking SS's phone or taking him out of the state!
(I don't know where she got the idea that we'd be taking him out of the state...)

Do you hold his hand when he pisses? Do you sleep in his bed at night? No wait, he sleeps in yours! My son had best NOT sleep with the frigging damn pets you idiots have!

Why don’t you just give BF a baby so he will leave me and MY son alone? Everyone’s problems would be solved then except your’s when you are left high and dry w/o any support.

Kids shouldn’t be forced to see deadbeat parents who have abandoned them for another man/woman!
(Seems like she's projecting her feelings onto SS...BF did not leave SS for another woman [or her for that matter, he left her long before I came along..], he divorced BM and is trying to have a relationship with his son the best he can. This is something she does that I never understood.)

SS has never been BF's son because BF has never been a dad to him. He’s denied himself of that right.

So that, in a nutshell, was my Christmas Day. Things went a little smoother when BF got home with SS and everyone could relax. Funny how BM claims that SS didn't want to come at all, and that he'll probably resent BF for a long time because he "forced" him to come...but he's having so much fun while he's here, and when she calls him (which she's already done nine times) his mood instantly changes and he gets all quiet and morose.

But at any rate, there are a lot of things that we're learning over the course of this visitation...I'll write a blog in a couple of days with the details.