BM still won't let BD call house without BS
Does anyone still have this problem after 18 months of separation. BD still can't call his kids house without BS from the BM. He even bought a cell phone for 13 year old son to use to call him or even to call his mother when with dad. BM has taken it and claimed it as hers. BM has disconnected internet because BD was talking to kids on MSN. What does BD have to do?
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We wanted to get SS one of those little Firefly phones that only lets you call Mom and Dad, but BM really doesn't like that idea. She can come up with every excuse not to get one. We're on a different provider than her, they don't get signal at home, blah blah blah. It's gotten better lately but it used to be really hard for BF to call SS at home because he knew that she'd hog the phone and try to argue with him. For a while he even avoided calling his own son because of the crap she would always start. And the sad thing is they have caller ID, so she knows when he's calling and could easily just let SS pick up the phone, but noooo...
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
It is just going to take time, and bm getting a new man..
When the bm of my ss finally got a man of her own, that is when my dh could call her house w/o all the crap. Or the phone would ring w/o anyone answering it.
Basically, unless you have a court order establishing a timeframe when bd can call child on specific day at specific time, she doesn't have to let bd talk to child. And if you do have that, and she still throws crap at bd over the phone...he either justs has to say "let me talk to child.." repeatedly until she puts child on phone, or bd must argue until he get's child on phone.
If it is really, really bad, talk to attorney about bm not being allowed to answer phone herself during your allotted time to call, that child must answer phone. My dh's ex gf use to scream all the time in front of child, and over the phone to my dh. Our attorney's next move if she didn't quit, was to put a gag order on her (that is what she called it) that she was going to have to use a 3rd party to talk to my dh since she couldn't stop screaming. And that was going to cost her! But it never happened b/c she ended up getting a man.
She does have a new man..................
I can't figure it out! She does have a new man, but she does not want "her kids" talking to their dad. God forbid the kids may have a good conversation or a good time with dad..BM also has call display, on home phone and sons phone. BD has stopped calling all together. This BM does not deserve to be a mother. After 18 months one would think she would be over the fact, that she no long owns the ex husband..wouldn't you think? It did get mentioned by judge in court to have a third party involved, but BM said she didn't want her kids around a stranger, her family didnt; want to get involved, BF family is abusive, I (the GF) upsets her....any excuse,,,,because she wants the ex to pick them up....so she can pull her crap on him...I tell you he has patience b/c I wouldnt have put up with it this long....she is wierd thats all I can say...it makes me laugh the crap she does...how can any normal human being act like this and ever feel good about herself....lol Thanks for listening to me rant....
BF should Maintain contact ...
Get a court order!! That'll fix her.....
Don't stop trying to call! She wins in her game of driving a wedge between him & his children..... Then the "your Dad doesn't love you" crap will start...or the "see he doesn't even call you anymore"
Document each time he tries to contact them....and she doesn't allow it... It won't make her look very good in court.
I have encouraged my X to MSN, or e-mail my 13 yr old because she is drifting away from him...which he hasn't done. He should maintain daily contact...that's what would happen if they all still lived under one roof. And I can see what's happening to their relationship after 5 years because that daily contact was'nt there..
So tell him don't give up trying. And if she continues to be difficult...use your journal in court to get ordered contact..