Or rather, maybe it should be worded "Need I mention...". All of our respected bio moms seem to share a lot of similarities, and exhibit a lot of the same behaviors. I don't want to jump in and say that mine takes the cake, but I'm sure you'll agree when I say she's pretty far gone. Story time!

So, I started dating bf many moons ago. At that time she regarded me less like a threat and more like an annoyance. She didn't bother herself wasting too much time on me, I guess she felt that I could never "make it" with her ex.

As time progressed she became more and more antsy about me. She would call his work, and if I was there would raise holy cain over the phone. She would drive by to see if my car was at his store (now would be an appropriate time to point out that she lives in an entirely different town from us, about 40 minutes away), and if it was she would come inside. At first she would just go behind the counter and sit by him, sort of "guarding her territory" I guess you could say. After a couple months of that, bf got fed up with it and asked her to leave. Of course, she didn't like that at all...how dare he try to boss her around, she's the boss of everyone don't you know. There were a couple of really intense yelling matches. I even wrote out a testimony after one of their fights because she had picked up some of the customer's things in the store and started beating him with it. She also broke several pieces of equipment and threw some customer's personal things across the room.

She must have came to the conclusion after that time that I probably wasn't going away easily if her little explosions and altercations hadn't chased me away, and decided to step it up a notch or two. She made it her life mission to find out all of my personal information. In other words, she started stalking me. She became obsessed with me. I had already changed my phone number once by this time because she had discovered it somehow, calling and texting me at all hours of the day to tell me just how much of a tramp I was (only using much harsher words). I had also already moved once because she accidentally found out where I lived, and came by to yell at me and call me some lovely names with her son standing right in front of her. I am a very conscientious person and it's not hard to figure out when someone is or has hired someone to look up information on you. I flagged all of my utility and bank accounts and put fraud alerts on the credit bureaus. None of this deterred her, however. She would ask all of my friends for my information, claiming to have an emergency with her son in which she needed to speak to me immediately. Thankfully none of them betrayed me. She has followed me vehicularly multiple times, but I always knew that she was there and would drive all around the countryside until she finally gave up. She called and emailed my administrator at work several times trying to get me fired, claiming that I had done something illegal regarding her son on visitation (she subsequently was banned from contacting my workplace by said administrator). She has multiple different aliases online that she uses to talk to me, trying to gain information about me or berate me about how I shouldn't be with my bf because of the situation with her and the son. All of the people that I talk to online I have known for several years, however, and when some random stranger comes up to me to chat I can pretty much guarantee that it's her.

Somehow, though, after being so careful and flawlessly enduring over a year of stalking from her (with class might I add), something betrayed me and she found out where I live. She claims that an anonymous stranger followed me and took pictures of my car in front of my house, along with pictures of the street and address (all of her tips allegedly come from overly-helpful completely anonymous people). This hasn't proven to be much of a problem as of yet because to my knowledge she hasn't attempted to enter my house or even knocked on the door. Regardless, I'm still quite uncomfortable with the idea of her having this information considering all the things she's done and has threatened to do in the past.

I really don't hate the woman, and for the most part I don't feel many negative feelings toward her. Primarily, I just pity her greatly. I feel so sorry for her that she has her priorities so off kilter. I really sincerely wish that something would come along and provide her with the prophetic life-changing event that could set her self-destructive ways right and teach her to accept and work with everyone, not only for our sanity but more importantly for the health and well being of her child.