Long holiday weekend...
DH is on the way home with the 2 SD's... they'll be here until Sunday. We've had them every weekend this month because mom has been 'busy'. We usually have them every other weekend, so it's been an adjustment this month. They aren't bad kids, we all get along for the most part. The issue I have is, the oldest (11) is very overbearing when it comes to me and thinks she can be the boss. She hangs all over me when we are walking in stores (like has to have her arm around me, not sure why) like she doesn't understand personal space?? and ALWAYS ask me to buy her something, no matter what store we are in. I tell her no every time and not to ask, but she still does. The youngest is 5 and she and I get along great - they have much different personalities (albeit there is a 6 year age difference but they really are different people).
Anyway, just needed to vent real quick. I'm planning on cooking for Thanksgiving tomorrow and I'm sure little miss will try to take over and tell me how to cook, which she does all of the time. I try to put her in her place in a nice way, but it doesn't seem to make a difference.
Happy Thanksgiving all...
Maybe give little miss a task
Maybe give little miss a task or two to complete and see if that channels her focus into something useful. Last time I cooked Thanksgiving meal, I ordered everyone out of the kitchen - no steps involved, just my family. You need peace to do something so charitable and...thankless! As for the gifts, tell her "Maybe for Christmas. Put it on your list." If you give in even once, that will set an ugly precedent. I hope your day goes well.
Sending you hugs! That was
Sending you hugs! That was the dynamic between me and my ex-sd's. The one I couldn't stand was all over me like a lap dog, but was bossy and in your face, telling me what to do, how her mother did it and constantly begging for attention. The one I liked (the youngest) was like a cat -- out of the way, only coming around and being cute for a few minutes, then retiring to more interesting things.
I feel for you... tell your DH to keep BOTH of his kids busy. NO she cannot help for Thanksgiving dinner. It's sacred. Get her the hell out of your kitchen.
Good luck!