Well that didn't go well
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Was SS21 birthday yesterday. Is very trying having him living back here yet again and not working. I figure I would make him his favorite dish for dinner to show him I don't hate him. Side note, any time I make dinner for him he doesn't show up. Anyhow, my wife a couple of weeks ago told me so proudly that he put a large portion of his income tax rebate towards his outstanding fines for his license. $1000. She goes in to put some money towards it for his birthday and it turns out he wasn't quite honest with her surprisingly. He put $000 towards it. It hit the fan! I just watched it unfold.
Don't you just love it when
Don't you just love it when they screw themselves? And you came out smelling like a rose. }:)
I feel bad for my wife and I
I feel bad for my wife and I feel bad for him as he just doesn't get it and is in for a world of hurt in life.
She couldn't say much except
She couldn't say much except she was done trying to help him without him helping himself and that he needs to be out in two weeks. Not the first time she has said that unfortunately. Maybe this time she will hold her ground. He came downstairs last night like everything was fine. Is a little mind blowing. He just doesn't get it.
She told him he has to find a
She told him he has to find a full time job by the 15th which he might. I told him regardless what your mother does and even if you are working, you are out in September. I can manage for 3 more months of the BS. If I would go to course for something like that, I would be going to court for something else also lol.
But yes, its the whole I am
But yes, its the whole I am going to count to ten scenario during his childhood.
Why the parents of liars
Why the parents of liars remain eternal optimists regarding the veracity of their spawn is beyond my ability to comprehend. A liar is a liar. Sure, eventually most figure out that honesty is the superior policy and learn to value honesty but I do not consider the words of a liar anything but a lie until I have directly witnessed many years of honesty from them.
"But maybe he/she is not lying this time. Why do you have to automatically say that he/she is lying?" is one of those things that makes my head explode every time I hear it. Kids have tells. If you know your kid/Skid well enough a lie is as plain as the nose on their face.
When he was a pre-teen my SKid asked me how I always seemed to know when he was lying. I explained it to him. He changed his tells. The new ones were more obviouse than the old ones.
Thanks Rags, unfortunately
Thanks Rags, unfortunately things have taken a bit of a turn as he did get a job when he looked for one the day before the 15th which he held for two days before getting fired. She did actually say that she doesn't believe a word he says anymore. She gave him another week now to find a job. This is going to be a repeat cycle over the short term. Hopefully counselling will work and give her the tools she needs to use. I told her after he got fired that its a roller coaster ride and you both have the keys to it. She said she doesn't know how to use her keys. I am hoping that she will soon learn how to.