It would take too long to answer each of your points in detail. What it comes down to is you need to take your kids and move out.

Above all else, you need to protect your kids, especially your daughter and your autistic son. This environment is not good for either one of them. Your other son is probably "addicted" to the internet because he needs to avoid the chaos around him.

Make an appointment with a lawyer and get their guidance on how to start the proceedings. And as of right now quit paying for anything having to do with his kids.

You had me at bankruptcy...I value my great credit score wayyy too damn much to ever lose it over a man, his brats and ex!!! FUCK THATTTT...

All I would be saying to that "man" and his brats is...BYE FELICIA!!!

Yes, you should walk away. Get to an attorney asap and start your exit strategy.

Please explain why you continue to expose your minor child to the toxic stew of the shallow and polluted gene pool of your DH's spawn?

This idiot and his polluted progeny are costing you your own children. Time to put your hands between your legs, grab a big handful of gonads and grow up. Protect your children. No one else will and you are their mother. Not only are you not protecting them you are actively exposing them to this toxic gonad gumbo that your DH has created.

You took on one he11 of a fixer-upper project didn't ya? Too bad you're not getting anything worthwhile out of your investment. If it's "love" you want you there's way cheaper ways of getting it...I was gonna say something crass but I'll just give you a hint: batteries/adult toys (more satisfying and less hassle than a man with s/kids).

He will not get alimony. It was a very short term marriage and he is working now. Get out while he is working.

It will probably be hard to rent an apartment or find any other type of living arrangement now that you have a bankruptcy on your record. I'd advise kicking DH and his vile progeny out of the apartment. He's working now, so he can find his own place to live.

Wash your hands of this entire mess. Trust me, it WON'T get any better.

(((HUGS)))

Sometimes being broker than broke poor with happy kids is better than just being broke with a miserable family life.

I hear you on this one -- I'm in a similar situation where my DH seemed like he was financially healthy before he married me but after moving his kids in with me I ended up paying all the bills while the little he earned went to ex wife's child support WHILE I WAS SUPPORTING HIS CHILDREN AT MY HOUSE. Fun times. Anyway I am at a point in my marriage where I am trying to throw in the towel and realize that I really have nothing to look forward to with this man other than years of supporting him while he scrapes together what he can to pay for his two boys college tuition next year.

It's hard to reverse gears and give up your dreams of a happy marriage... I hear you. I think I am a similar point in my relationship where I have to cut bait because this is just never going to work for me. And he benefits from me and I don't benefit from him at all. In fact he tries to make me feel horrible because I don't want to pay for his kids to live here.

Leave now. Lawyer up.

dh and i have been married for 18 years. we married when skids were still very young children.

bm had full custody so dh was always kissing the a$$ of bm over the visitation she always jerked him over.

during the time skids were growing up, dh never missed cs and paid for things like sports and hobbies. never did skids say thank you. and he paid for much of school clothes.

cs money went to bm and her new husband buying a new house and new cars. they had new cars every two years.

when dh would call the skids to talk with them, they all screened his calls on the phone he bought and paid for on phone plans.

now that skids are grown, they all come wanting money. now that they are adults they are all calling him every day to talk like adult friends might do. one sd calls him her bff.