My spouse and I were recently cleaning out his closet, and came across a card directed to him from his son who is 13 and it was a nice card addressed to him and basically said " i love you dad love your son__" it was not a birthday card of fathers day card but just a random card he gave my spouse one day and enclosed was a picture of my spouse and his son at the beach in July 2015. This was recently after they met. I asked my spouse who took the picture and BM did.However that same beach day my spouse explained to me BM was trying to hangout with my spouse and son at the beach when she dropped son off with my spouse, my spouse felt awkward and didnt know how to tell her to leave, since he was trying to be civil and polite for their sons sake and he was trying to hint to her to leave. This is not the only time she has done this where she is taking random pictures. The history is- the first time My spouse met his son who is 13, was ten months ago and the BM randomly contacted him by finding him on face book (yay) and my spouse went and picked him up the next day and the BM had taken pictures of my spouse and the son (standing outside of my spouses truck) and then posted it on her Facebook? All I know is my spouse told me she had done this, and he was a little ticked off about it. BM and her husband at that time were separated and BM husband seen the photo and thought my spouse and BM were back together, BM proceeded to tell my spouse this that her husband was stalking her on face book long with sobs story of how her husband treated her. My spouse then told me as he was annoyed wondering why she would be putting a picture of him and their son on her facebook anyway. I was really upset. However BM kept their son from my spouse for several years, she got married and her and her husband felt my spouse was not a good enough father and just a "sperm doner" for the first 6 years of SON13 life, as BM and my DH were never dating but had a fling when they were young resulting in pregnancy and she didn't tell him about their son for over 2 years as she left town.BM and husband moved across the country never even saying a word. LONG story. Now BM wants my spouse involved with every single thing, and needs his support physically and financially after 12 years. I am just wondering how I can explain to my Spouse that BM is really pushing a relationship with the son and how I can explain this without hurting him as he is excited to see his son, at the same time, SON and BM do not want me around, or my kids, but wants dad all to himself now, and BM is upset when dad doesn't call to talk to SON13 each night, or every second night, Spouse used to call each night for a few months then life just started happening and it would be every other night or twice a week then see him on the weekend, my spouse has never gone more than 4 days without talking to his son, but BM s texting my spouse right away " hey why haven't you talked to your son today, why havent you called?"