I don't understand why these men continue to think that there is a chance that they can have one big happy family with their aggressive and rude adult "children" once their spouse has gotten fed up and disengaged.

My idiot of a husband actually thought that I would consider going to lunch with his hateful and aggressive adult "children" so that he could bestow their Christmas gifts upon them. I'd rather do anything else!

I haven't seen or spoken to them in over 5 years because of their hateful and aggressive actions and words towards him, myself, and our younger children. Not to mention the fact that his adult son sent my underage daughter a sexually explicit text that mortified her!!!!! I can not forgive or forget that.

He attempted to pressure me into going and actually told me that they had changed and grown up. I informed him that they were in their mid 30s when I last spoke to them at which time they had called me names and screamed at me so they were as grown as they were ever going to get. For some reason he wants to believe that all of a sudden they had an ephinany just because their 40 !!! Please spare me.

I know for a fact that he has never even broached a serious discussion about their prior behavior with them. He has no idea how they feel or whether any such maturity has taken place. In fact he seems to fail to acknowledge that if I were to show up to the little lunch he has planned his adult babies would probably not even stay or more likely would make a scene. That's how Ill behaved they are.

I do not plan to attend and let him know exactly that but I'm aggravated that after all of this time he thinks that we will magically become a big happy family. It will never happen as I am done being exposed to toxic people. Anyone have any success in stopping these fantasies that seem to periodically crop up in our husbands heads?

So aggravating that he doesn't get it.