Wishes the law was different in relation to families
So the issue is we have primary care of my ss5 74% to be exact and bm isn't paying any CS, (she is on Centrelink and because she has more than 14% care we get nothing) she uses this as an opportunity to pay for nothing and that includes school books and fees and uniform.....for 4 years of ss's life she had care of him ran away twice even after final orders were in place and I don't mean to sound greedy since we got more than what we asked for in court but I do not believe that she is fit to have "equal shared parenting" she is a narcissist who alienates my SO even after we were awarded custody, she is selfish in the fact that she prefers to stick to the orders when it comes to spending time with the child even though she has been offered to have him for extra time she also refuses to move closer to where he is living and chooses to live an hour and a half away oh on top of all of this communication is dismal. In the court orders she is supposed to ring him twice a week but doesn't and also is not attending therapy which was also ordered...it is my personal opinion that in these situations where a bm or bd are continuing to not follow final orders twice or more times it should be a simple as going to the courts and saying this isn't working and while it's not working its harming the child still... What thoughts do people have on this because I know that dispite saying that the child's best interests are taking Into consideration I do not believe this is the case...in my situation the mother is still being favoured even though she has constantly shown that the child's best interest are not in mind with her....
It is frustrating that by all
It is frustrating that by all appearances .... in many cases the courts and system is staffed by bottom 10%er morons of the legal and government service professions.
If the idiots are the ones administering the courts and organizations then there is no possible way that the best interests of the children or anyone else is being protected.
So, if you are not happy with the situation get an attorney, call the media, and start turning up the heat on the idiots.
I would.
It's selfish because she
It's selfish because she absolutely refuses to spend any extra time with the child......wouldn't u as a parent jump at the opportunity to spend more time with your child if it was offered especially if you only saw him 2/3 weekends?
If we offer fr her to spend
If we offer fr her to spend more time with her child she isn't breaking the order as it states "any other time agreed between the parties"
I also don't agree that a
I also don't agree that a parent refusing extra time is selfish. Often in split custody or visitation situations one parent ends up as the beck and call baby sitter for the other. That is not what an X should be.
There are many STalkers who are in every weekend visitation situations where one parent gets every weekend as kid free and the other never gets a kid free weekend. IMHO one X spouse should never be the beck and call resource for the other even when they have spawned.
Your time, the kid is your problem is my philosophy but for sure the kid had better be adequeately cared for and supervised or I will own the other parents toxic ass. And we did. We kept the pain on my Skid's toxic SpermClan and they had no choice but to adequately care for him when he was on visitation or they answered to us to the fullest legal and social consequences we could apply. We bared their butts in front of their neighbors, their church, their work, etc... when they gave us no other choice.
But, maybe that is just me.
i probably should have been a
i probably should have been a little more clearer as to why i think its selfish...this woman spent 4 years trying to phase my partner and i out of my ss's life even going so far as to disappear twice without telling us.... we finally decided to file for primary care because she isnt stable enough to adequately care for him in a stable environment, we would never use her as means to get rid of the child out of our hair but of course if something was to come up we would of course ask her if she wanted to have him before getting a baby sitter, before the orders went live she would jump at the opportunity to spend more time with him and we only offer for my ss's benefit because personally i think with her mental state, (she uses ss as a weapon against us toxic as hell believe me) less time or supervised time would be better but of course we are trying to promote healthy relationship between all parties so thats why we ask if she wants to take him that extra time especially if there is a school event on..after the orders went live its like she doesnt care anymore, she missed all of the last christmas holidays with him because she had not relocated back to the state yet and yet wont take him for extra time even though it was offered....again it was only offered as a benefit for ss and bio mum to spend more time together not because my partner and i want to "get rid of him" im beginning to wonder if that is all ss is to her a weapon to cause toxicicity between all parties.
on top of that she fought
on top of that she fought tooth and nail to stop him from coming into our care in the 1st place so why would you do that and then refuse the extra time if you were so concerned for ss's wellbeing before the orders went live.....not only that but she constantly has something to say about our care for him, (overreacting but still)
we offer genuine time over
we offer genuine time over the christmas break based on that she missed out last year.....we also offer extra time based on events at school that she should be in attendance for saves her fuel and effort, doesnt really benefit us so if we are offering her extra time without any benefit to my partner or i, i call that a genuine offer...but every time she refuses she also refuses to come to his events