I'm here as I don't know where else to turn with this. To get quickly to the point, my fiancé's S10 makes me very uncomfortable. Fiancé and I dated for 8 months before involving his children, ages 8 & 10. Fairly early S10 seemed to really like having me join them in family activities, which I thought was sweet. Not long, however, S10 and I had to wait at the house door for S8 and fiancé to catch up with us. S10 motioned that he was going to hug me, but then started squeezing my butt, saying "butt massage". I pulled away immediately and said that wasn't appropriate. He then went about his business as though nothing happened. Fast forward a few months, s10 entered the kitchen where his dad and I were making dinner. S10 motioned that he was going to hug me but then attempted to grope my breast! I pushed him away and again told him that it was not appropriate. S10 left the room and fiancé asked me what just happened. Shortly after, S10 entered the room again and kissed my butt (I wasn't aware of what happened, as my back was turned. I felt a brushing but had no idea until fiancé whisked S10 to his room and had a stern talking to him). They've been on a two week vacation with their mom since then, so I haven't been around them. S10 has autistic tendencies, but certainly not a full on diagnosis. It's as though he just doesn't get that what he's doing is wrong. He's actually a pretty loving kid at times, but these occurrences have made me very uncomfortable. I told fiancé that I WILL NOT EVER be alone with his boys until they've received counseling and help (S8 is ADHD and very disrespectful). I see this as a huge red flag, but I love fiancé, obviously, and would like to make a life with him. Help.