many of you have read my posts which i make from time to time.

for the most part many of us are here because we dont get the support from our spouses or significant others. or maybe our spouses dont love us as much as their children and that is why we dont get the support.

we are sick and tired of the abuse.

i feel much better now that i have no expectations and am moving on. i have watched over the years the abuse heaped on my husband in the form of disrespect the threat to withhold love. i have watch him cower before his own children, take the abuse and beg for their time and attention. the skids have blackmailed him all these years. as for me i get hollered at with verbal abuse at the slighted perceived infraction or short coming. everyone in the life of dh comes before me: skids, worthless bil and sil, parents and nephews and nieces. now the bf of one of the sds comes before me. did i mentin his daughters are mini wives?

the last straw was when dh was driving me to a medical appointment. i had a health crisis and surgery, and the doctor forbade me to drive so dh has to drive me. dh goes on and on how he hates to drive me everywhere. what about the marriage vows in sickness and health? not so for me, his wife. sd so much as get a hangnail and he will leave work and drive across town. while in the car i was mentioning how id like more support and affection from dh. he gets angry and stops in the middle of traffic, and gets out and leaves the car, walking down the street and around the corner. i am stuck in the passenger seat with my leg in a splint in a stopped car. as i was trying to get out of the car and park the car in a safe spot he comes raging back snarling and cursing at me and ordering me to be more respectful to him! he said i deserved to be treated and left in the car.

at that point i made up my mind that i dont deserve this. so no expectations anymore. he has his family. let them be his headache.