Yup. The nearsightedness is astounding. You know she had to have it for a long time for it to get this bad. Who knows what damage was done. Wonder if this episode will come back to bite her when she's middle aged.

I once remarked to DH that she'll likely be diabetic at some point in adult life. He seemed shocked. I said, well, with 2 grandmothers who are diabetic and the terrible eating habits she's developing now, what do you think? I did not mention that her greatest form of exercise involves fingers on a keyboard, too.

That conversation notwithstanding, she still is allowed to eat non-stop junk and play non stop video games. Although he does nag her to eat breakfast and lunch. No matter that it turns out to be ramen all the time.

Yes, they can. But when you're 15 and never bathe, change panties, or your used lady items every month, probably not sexually active, let's not go looking for zebras, shall we?

The first thing on the list that the doc's give out for prevention of UTI is: HYGIENE.

Pretty sure you're not recommending teen girls never change their panties, bathe, or get their lady products regularly changed out because it doesn't really matter, right? Because there IS a reason we all DO bathe and change. Trips to the ER for UTIs is one of them.

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Those are good details, thanks. I never heard of the baking soda thing.

Didn't know about it reaching the heart. Seems like SD was in more danger than I knew. The pain she felt was a blessing in disguise.

Can't say one way or the other if she's sexually active. I do think odds are against it. Many of her personality traits argue against it and the way she generally spends her time does, too. She talks a lot about hating babies and kids and she's smart enough to know where they come from without any stupid teen illusions yet she has made no effort to ask for or seek birth control. Or alone time with her bf. Outside of school they only see each other about once every 4-6 weeks in a group activity.

Ha! Not to mention we read the over the top love letter her wrote to her for Christmas and there were no suspicious lines in there alluding to private intimacies.

On the flip said, they have been together almost a year now and we all know that genie won't stay in the bottle forever when two people are together for a considerable amount of time.

Well, I'd love it if you would come to my house and deploy them. Just swoop in and take charge. I would love that. No drama between me and DH. Just a masked marauder flying about burning old panties and shoving kids in the shower. I. love. this. vision.

"Friggin' horrible" is a good way to describe it!

Dh and I talked about it again this week and last night I heard him telling her that if he found her asleep in her clothes he would yank the sheet out from under her. I know this is because of our talk and how we both said we observed she was not changing panties all weekend. So he's following through.

He also said he would make her shower while she's here. She stopped showering here at all about 2 years ago. He has seen the error of allowing that. She's here every single weekend and we knew she was barely showering at BM's, too. Such. Bad. Habits. Took a hospital scare to get their attention.