Hmmm...didn't think of that! She did get caught with alcohol at school with she was 13, and got into trouble Christmas break before last because she was caught sneaking step-dad's tequilla! And if she is back to smoking pot on a regular basis...I know she still did it occasionally here (sorry...there were just some days that I could tell she was high off her ass and couldn't believe that DH couldn't see it), but BM lets her disappear and do whatever, so I'm pretty sure she is smoking it more heavy now. We all know that pot brings on munchies...and that one social media pic sure looked like a case of the munchies to me.

I care because DH is still responsible for half of any medical that the insurance doesn't cover, and if BM manages to get him to pay more child support because this junk-food-junkie needs new clothing every month, that takes away from his contribution to the household expenses...because he is already at the limit of his income. That means that more money comes out of MY pocket to cover things...so in essence, I end up having to pay for HHB being allowed to eat herself into sickness and the constant need for bigger clothing!

As it is...BM has already been informed of HHB's 8 CAVITIES that were discovered during the dental visit DH took her for...because he had scheduled it when HHB was still living with us. He told BM that she needed to pay her half of getting the cavities fixed...at the time it was about $500 total for 2 fillings and 6 sealants. BM didn't want to pay, and told DH she would get the work done at the dental office her mom works at, because her mom could get the work done free of charge. DH said okay...and left it at that...but we both suspect the work still has not been done on HHB's teeth. It's been 2 more months now since the cavities were discovered...and we all know how fast those things can grow, especially if she is still downing all that sugar and not brushing (bacteria LOVES sugar). I'm sure now she is needed all 8 teeth drilled and filled, because sealants will no longer work on those other 6 teeth! If they let them rot to the point of root canals and crows, I doubt that BM can get that kind of work done free of charge, then she will be knocking on our door demanding half of that work...which will be much more than the $250 our half would have cost if BM would have just paid her half and allowed DH to take care of it!

So for 2 years, I do still have to care about the health of HHB, because it can come back and bite us in the arse!

Sad thing is, she is predisposed to gaining a whole lot of weight. Her aunt was very heavyset before she died of leukemia. BM, like I said, has gotten so big she claims only men's XXXL stuff will fit. BM has been in and out of the hospital last year due to bowel issues. Won't go into details because it is pretty gross, but doctors have told her that she MUST stop eating junk food. Woman refuses to do it. Let's just say that she has symptoms of colon cancer, which obesity and not eating correctly will cause/contribute to. She has been in for a couple of biopsies already. She hasn't told DH if she has cancer or not at this point, though he thinks he would be sure to tell him. He thinks that BM wants to die, because this total funk started when her sister died several years ago...that is when she started refusing to leave the house and totally letting herself go.

I have tried for years to get HHB to eat any kind of food that is good for her. She has lived with BM most of her life who had the philosophy that if HHB said she didn't like something, she wouldn't make the child eat it. Basically, BM allowed a diet of chocolate, chips, pizza, mac&cheese, chicken nuggets, and french fries all of HHB's life! When we would have her for visits when she was younger, I had so many fights trying to get her to eat...DH would make her sit there until he felt she had eaten enough of her healthy food to leave the table. When HHB would get tired of sitting there, she would force herself to throw up all over herself and the table. GAG! That was her way of making sure that she didn't see the same meal the next meal, as we used to put the same meal back in front of her later when she complained again that she was hungry. When we both got tired of this, that is when the sandwich option started. I wasn't about to fix a separate meal for her! If she was hungry, she could have a sandwich. I don't see her changing the way she eats any time in the near future, for sure.

No, because BM has issues herself! BM sees nothing wrong with the way HHB eats, and DH always refused to deal with it when HHB lived with us! There is a history of mental issues in that family. BM says that she herself has been diagnosed as bipolar, and is supposedly on all kinds of meds. She also claims to suffer from depression. I wouldn't be surprised if BM does have some sort of mental disorder that is manifesting itself into eating disorders. But BM's take on HHB not wanting to eat anything but junk and gorging herself on the crap has been going on since HHB was really little. She has always had a crap diet with BM, because BM also has a crap diet.

My bios got to the point they would eat as fast as they could if HHB was over, so they could quickly leave the table before she pulled that crap. The first time she did it, they were so grossed out! I don't blame them! I would leave the kitchen and let DH deal with the crap.