BM threw a fit last summer when my DH refused to give her the extra 2 days she wanted during the summer. We get them full time in the summer, 7 days and she gets every other weekend. Well she wanted them 4 days so she could see them more. At the same time we got a cat. Supposedly my sd9 is severely allergic to cats so BM flipped and threatened to take us to court over it. We called sd's allergy doctor and big surprise BM was lying about how allergic she is.

The Dr said keep the child on allergy meds, bathe the cat and purchase an air filter and she would be fine. She never said we have to get rid of the cat as BM claimed. After we showed BM the Drs note she backed right off like a kicked puppy. I think she thought bluffing and lying would get her the summer custody back.

She hasn't mentioned it since but now here's another problem...
We had my DH's friend move into our condo with us to afford it. He has 2 other cats. I told my DH from the beginning that he needs to tell BM down the road about it. He wouldn't and now my obnoxious pre teen drama causing SD told me other day that we needed to tell her mother be because it's dangerous. Keep in mind the cats have been here since Christmas and neither kid has had any problems minus a sneeze.

I made a mistake though, I told sds that we wanted to see how they did for 2 weeks before we were going to say anything to BM about the cats. SD somehow twisted that into my step mom is forcing me to keep secrets. Noe I'm deathly afraid of what BM will do and I'm getting no support from my DH, he screamed at me last night about and I've been having anxiety attacks since.

Im really afraid of what BM will try to do. I'm not giving up my cat. The only time pre teen step shows symptoms of asthma on allergies is when she wants to cut class, not clean her room or do chores. And because we tell her what she doesn't want to hear all the time, such as no you can't stay up till 2am and talk on Facebook and you can't skip an entire semester of homework, I know she will try to use the cats as an excuse not to come down here.

I admit I won't miss her, I dread it when she's her because she spends all her time whining fighting and making messes. I'm more concerned with BM trying to get us evicted. What do I do? Just let Dh just deal with the mess, I'm so anxious about it.