My ss is 3. My bio daughter is 2. We found out when my ss was almost 2 that my boyfriend was the father.

December 2013 is when visitation started. We have him Thursday - Monday.

I don't like my ss and know what parents feel like when they get to the point where they shake their kids/babies. I haven't done that, but I have wanted to!

There has been NO progress. Something has GOT to give. My ss would rather be anywhere else than with us. He is sassy. Uses bad words. Talks back like he is a teenager. Is, essentially, potty trained but refuses to go at our house. (I know there could be an underlying issue here, BUT, he just pees down his leg at home too.)

I have NO patience for him, at all. He teaches his sister stuff that I'd rather her not know. His crying/screaming sets off a fire inside me that is unreal.

I don't know what to do to tolerate him. That's the first step I need to accomplish. 1 - Tolerate. 2 - Like. 3 - Love. I want to treat him like my own, but I just can't. I am a lot harder on him than I am my bio daughter.

His mom is definitely a person who shouldn't be a mother. She has no sense of what should be happening. His home life isn't the best, that I know. He lives with mom, grandpa and grandma. In the time we don't have him, there are at least 4 different people who watch him. She is also money hungry.

After 2 years of having him full-time, all the time, a break would be nice, sure. But 12 days and you don't want to come get him earlier in the day or even at all? In fact, you send your boyfriend to come get him LATE? You don't want your kid on Christmas morning? Should that even be a thought?