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Submitted by rahrah2019 on Wed, 01/07/2015 - 5:48pm

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DH: Son, you can help me clean up the dishes when we are done. You are old enough to start helping out.
SS: Well then I'll just say I want McDonald's.

DH cleaned up the dishes. Kudos for a feeble try, way to be bullied by your kid.
Not to mention, my kids were starting to help with dishes when they were two!! This kid is 13 1/2.

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Submitted by rahrah2019 on Wed, 01/07/2015 - 5:54pm

Wait even better, DH followed up with an APOLOGY!

DH: Son, I'm sorry, I believe you when you say you would have gotten it eventually. You accept?
SS: Yeah, I accept.
DH: Thank you.

Haha. I can't even....

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Submitted by rahrah2019 on Sat, 01/10/2015 - 12:47am

You're assuming this kid has responsibilities. I was literally told this past week that "we should cater to him when he is here" and it is wrong for me to expect any of my husband's attention when he is here.

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Submitted by blayze on Thu, 01/08/2015 - 7:27am

LOL exactly! Kid gets two choices... one he isn't going to like and the other gets the parent's wishes fulfilled. Parenting 101.

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Submitted by rahrah2019 on Sat, 01/10/2015 - 12:44am

He wasn't even asked to do the dishes. This is literally asking him to bring his own dirty dish that he just used into the kitchen and put it into the dishwasher. That's it. My DH is so clueless when it comes to teaching any amount of responsibility. Sometimes he will verbalize his (read: MY) wishes, but he NEVER follows through. There is never a consequence for not doing something. He will simply re-verbalize why he originally asked him to do it, i.e. "you have to start doing some things for yourself, or you won't know how to do anything when you get out on your own." Well DUH. But I have NEVER, in three years, seen a consequence for anything. Just more soft talk.

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Submitted by SweetMom on Sat, 01/10/2015 - 12:52am

I hate when my sd washes he dishes. She takes the sprayer and sprays the entire counter top like the rest rooms in public places. I have little room on the counter top and keep bread up there. My bread always gets ruined. Thank GOD she only comes every other weekend.

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Submitted by rahrah2019 on Sat, 01/10/2015 - 1:19am

My Bitch Boots have been kickin' high for about five days. After the comments about catering to SS and how I shouldn't expect DH's attention when SS is around, I have decided I have found my hill to die on. Trust me, I'm not going down like this. I will not be walked on. I'd rather move on than live like that. I have a lot of love for my husband, but if he wants to put some little jackass that treats him like crap first, then he can have fun with that. And I did tell my DH exactly what you said about being sexually attracted to him. I believe my exact words the other night were, "It's hard to find you attractive when you lose your balls as soon as SS shows up."

Most of the time, SS comes to visit when I am at work, which makes it easy for my DH to hide his horrible parenting. Believe me, I know what's going on when I'm not here...coddling beyond belief. It's the very reason SS comes on my weekends to work. SS and I get along fine for the most part, but he knows I'm not going to wait on him. He also knows his dad will make a little more of an attempt, just so it doesn't look so bad or obvious, when I am here.

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Submitted by rahrah2019 on Sat, 01/10/2015 - 2:04am

Trust me, he (DH) doesn't leave a mess. He knows I'd have a fit. He blew the half nut he had left this weekend when I told him I was going to just stay out of their way and go to a hotel. He pointed out how very disrespectful to my spouse that would be. He fails to see the utter disrespect hurled my way every time SS is here.