If someone were to ask me about 6 months ago if I knew of a place to get advice or vent for being a stepparent, I would have looked at the person like they had lost their mind. Glad I found this forum tonight though.

I have literally spent the last few days allowing my anger to eat away at me until I am just literally drained.

I am a SM with a two teenage skids, the SS is a wonderful child of 15 and he is always happy. The SD happens to be a 17 old new mother.

I cannot tell you how ticked off I was initially to find out she was pregnant. Especially since she had access to birth control. But, what was done was done. I knew instantly that eventually she would attempt to use me as a babysitter and her BF as an income provider. I felt guilty initially about feeling that way, but unfortunately I was so right.

Here is the deal, her mother has serious issues of her own and cannot support the SD a good deal of the time, so she came to stay with
us for awhile, just as I feared. Pretty soon she was working and I was babysitting. The hours at work got longer and longer and my
babysitting hours got longer and longer (like over 50 hours a week.) I said nothing because I knew she was getting ready to go live with her aunt who was going to train and hire her to work in her company and oh how I prayed for that day to come soon. Did I mention she wanted some weekends to go out too? Needless to say she is finally out.

When her BF left 6 weeks ago to work in another state, as far as everyone knew I went with him because I needed time to myself and did not want to be put in the babysitting position again for a good long while, so I could recuperate from the initial lengthy experience. I felt bad about being deceitful in a way by hiding the fact I was home and of course eventually she did find out. Lucky me.

Last week she asked me by text if she could have some money because she was low, I had just paid our bills and had nothing left over but $6 in the bank and you cannot send a MoneyGram for less than $20. I told her that I did not have it and her reply was WTF ever back at me. ah? Not!

She informed me that she felt it was here BF's job to be helping her and I informed her that it was not his JOB! That she is not entitled to anything. She also informed me that the baby's father had not paid child support that month and did I realize she was raising a baby alone?

Seriously? She has not lived alone since she has had the child. She does not know the meaning of the word raising the baby on her own. I
believe she meant, no one else she found would put in the hours I did for her with the baby, so she could have going out time. Guess that was a shocking reality to her.

I wanted to tell her that the help she received and any she receives in the future comes from a place of sincere love from both of us and if she has that attitude about being entitled and ungrateful, she could do it on her own in the future as far as our household is concerned. The BF feels the same way. But, I am waiting for her BF to get home from working out of state to have a sit down with her and tell her that himself.

I really honestly do not look forward to seeing her face to face anytime soon as I feel the real her stood up and kicked her BF and myself in the face. She has never acted like this in the past 7 years that I have known her and it completely shocked me after all the time I put in to help her with the baby.

Trust me when I say, it took a lot out of me, because I am not a baby type of person any more. I like to hold little children and send them home with their mothers and fathers, not be their second mother. I have two grown sons of my own, so no more babies for me on a full time basis.

Also, we do provide a iPhone and pay the bill as well as child support from her BF that she had direct access to until she gave the child support card to her BM.

I honestly do not know how to approach this situation when we eventually do have to see her again. I'm not one for sweeping this kind of
thing under the rug and pretending everything is just peachy and I seriously can't ever see myself going that far out of the way for her
ever again knowing that she can simply chalk my hospitality up as owed to her.

Any advice for me would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.

P.S. I took the time to read others stories in here as well, so I feel better that I am not the only one who feels this way.