I'm mad and my feelings are hurt. My back is killings me from cleaning all day and now this shit. One dog spit his pill out, the Sdog tried to get it, in which case he would've OD'ed and I saved him anyway. So I'm feeling guilty about the dogs not getting their proper meds, it was a big fiasco that usually goes smoothly.

Then I sit down to dinner with the Skids and DH. SD19 and I are staring at SDstb13 playing with her food and not eating. I told her she had 10 minutes to clear the small servings on her plate. She's obviously not hungry because she's on Skid time, got up and finally ate breakfast at 12:30pm, lunch at 3:45pm, so dinner at 5:30pm was not appealing to her. DH coaxed her to finish and I reassured him she would finish. I looked at her and said she only had 6 minutes left, better hurry up.

I'm cleaning my dish in the sink and SDstb13 hasn't eaten anything else. I see her out of the corner of my eye across the kitchen. She stands up and picks up her plate. I ask her to sit down and eat everything, quit playing games at dinner. DH looks at me and motions for me to calm down, to let it go. SDstb13 snips at me, "Why don't figure out what I'm doing before you say anything? You don't even know what I was doing!" I sarcastically ask her, in front of wide-eyed SD19 and DH, "Where were you going with that plate, up to your room?" SD19 giggles a little, as do I, but I am fuming. SDstb13 sits down and MUTTERS something under her breath to me. This is my FIRST time experiencing this crap, so I get even more pissed! I ask her, "WHAT was that you said?" Pause.....Crickets. "Yeah, I thought so," I finished.

As usual, I look to DH and said out loud in from of the entire family, "YOU can chime in ANY time so I'm not the only bad guy here." He tells me to go upstairs since I'm in a bad mood. Heh heh. I'm a Scorpio, stinger comes out. I say to DH, "You know how many times I'm in a bad mood and I bite my tongue? This one time I feel like speaking my mind. SDstb13, if you're having THIS much trouble eating dinner, you are going t be sorely disappointed when you get older. (Sarcasm everywhere at this point.) Eating is a basic necessity, a daily function and you can't even get through dinner without having a hard time."

I gathered a few things from the kitchen and glared at her. She looked and caught me staring and quickly looked away. As I am going up the stairs I hear her push her chair out from the table and the water starts running in the sink! DH has let her get up without finishing her plate!

He leaves for business on Weds, so there will be no one cooking meals while he is gone. SDstb13 should have enjoyed that meal while DH was in town to grill it.

Now DH is going to come up here and he's going to put the entire thing on me because I spoke my mind. If I didn't have the skirmish with the dogs beforehand, I might not have been as bitchy. I probably would've stayed in the kitchen to make sure the Skid cleaned her plate. She's turning into a dumbass and DH was right there to support her. Now I know how the SMs feel on here. You're never supposed to let the children see you arguing, you're supposed to be a united front. He just doesn't get it.

My only saving grace is that school starts in 3 weeks and I'm not reminding STstb13 about homework or anything. She will spiral downward without me. Let DH figure that out when he gets the interim reports or report cards. I will monitor her grades online and keep my mouth shut. Something I should've done earlier.

~ Moon