Sounds like maybe it would not be a bad idea to get your own place for a while, just to have a peaceful place for you and your baby. You and your husband need counseling and now! Nobody should have to live in an environment like that.

Wow that is horrible behavior from both the skids and your DH! I'm so sorry for your situation.

Sounds like the most important thing right now is the well being and proper upbringing of your 3 month old. Though young, he will be impressionable soon. Talk to you DH. Tell him everything about how you feel. You are doing this for the well being of your child. Tell him if the skids don't shape up and be respectable in the next few months to a year, that you are gone.

There is NO reason you should have to live in a such a toxic environment and try to raise a child in it as well.

IGNORE IT? What the Hell is that all about? How did you think that having a kid would make this better? How do you think that this relationship is going to be saved?

Start with a family counselor preferably one that specializes in step-kid and divorces if possible. If husband won't go then go alone. After a few sessions the counselor will want to see him, perhaps alone, perhaps both of you together. If he refuses tell him his attendance is required if the marriage is to be saved. His response to you will tell you if he's interested enough or you're just the maid, cook and sex partner. Frankly that's why many men re-marry - to gain the domestic help.

Be prepared for a answer you don't want to hear but if he can't get these kids under control you're going to have to leave for your own sanity and your kids well being.

Okay I know I sound like a broken record (cause I've said this many times) BUT...

#1 Decide if your marriage is worth fighting for. If it's not, then cut your losses and leave. It if it...

#2 Get out your halo, polish it up, put it on. Get in your husband's good graces. Show him your vulnerability and let him know how much it hurts you when she yells at you, how it wounds you to not get to drive with him to pick them up (after all, you're supposseeddd to be a fammmillyyyy). Cry big crocodile tears if it helps. You are the victim here, but you're not getting the sympathy because you appear to be the Big Bad Wolf.

#3 Wear your crown whenever you're alone with stepbrat. Impose natural consequences for their behavior. Don't like the clothes I buy you, SD? Then your dad can buy your clothes from now on. Don't like the pictures on the wall? How about a blank wall? Or pictures she'll TRULY hate (blinking innocently at DH... why doesn't she like anything I do for herrrr????)

Play her game, only play it better and win.

Oh... and welcome to the Wicked Stepmother's Club.

Mahahaha!

Tell him to grow up and parent. Good grief. You need to take charge of your home. If you let little kids behave this way, exactly what kind of teenagers and young adults do you think you are going to have on your hands in about 4 years? You haven't lived until you've had a 12 year old girl elbow you like I have. Nip it now or you will become a dead-eyed drudge.

If you do divorce this man, which is not unlikely, get the courts involved in the custody and speak up about the half-siblings behavior. Hopefully the courts will insist on supervised visits so your little son will not be harmed by these unregulated older and bigger kids.

BTW, you're concerned about being "selfish" for not wanting them around your fragile infant? Are you nuts? Yes, in fact I think your husband has done a number on you for you to even think that way at all.

It is unlikely but if a baby did come to me and my DH I would never ever let my SD15 alone with the baby. Not even one second in the same room together without me present.

What is your H doing about this problem? How is he correcting his children? How is he standing up for you?

Quite frankly the problem isn't your skids. It's your H for not having the spine or testicles to lay it out to his kids that this behavior will NOT be tolerated.

Right now, stop buying things for them

Second, your H is in charge of cooking and cleaning when they are there.

Third, drag his dumb ass into marriage counseling. The other problem is he is completely disregarding your relationship and marriage.

I'm sorry you're going through this, and it's always easy to blame the skids. But they are not the issue here. Yes their crappy behavior is driving you batty but your H is doing nothing about it. HE is the problem with your skids and with your marriage.

I'm sure you guys might not believe in spanking, but if you guys aren't going to spank them then you'd better figure something else out. Stop giving punishments that they can actually REFUSE. Like others have said though, your DH needs to step up.

My grandkid acts the same way because SD24 doesn't believe in spanking. Well guess what, I do and if he's going to be in our house acting like a damn fool, he's getting his butt spanked whether SD24 likes it or not. Surprise, surprise, I'm the only one our grandson really listens to.

Time for a well placed belt or paddle to 8yo little girl buttocks each and every time she spouts her lippy rude incorrigible kid bullshit. If a spanking is not appropriate for the environment then a back handed finger slap the lips is in order followed by lighting up some kid ass with a spanking when she gets home.

Daddy needs to step up and deal with his devil spawned daughter or her behavior is entirely on him. As your DHs equity life partner you are also an equity parent to any children in the marital home regardless of the biology of those children. If DH will not step up and parent/discipline then you have to. He has a choice, step up and get it done right now and effectively or STFU while you deal with it.

How the hell did your DH spawn 3 children without a man sack? :? :? :?

My bride and I used corporal punishment as a viable disciplinary method upon occasion with the Skid. He is a well adjusted, self supporting, viable adult and extremely close to his mom and I. He detests the Sperm Clan on the other hand for their zero consequence, crappy behavior tolerating, and useless parenting which is destroying his 3 younger also out of wedlock Sperm Idiot spawned half sibs by two other baby mamas.

For him character and honesty are a key part of who he is and what he wants in those around him. For this reason he has pretty much written off the toxic shallow and polluted end of his gene pool.

Accountability based parenting/discipline works. Kids thrive when given behavioral expectations, when their parents have their backs, allow them to feel the consequences of their decisions and behavior, and give them guidance on the path to viable adulthood.

Hellion, lippy little POS kids like your SDs do not end up as viable or tolerable adults unless the adults step up. As badly as BM has ruined these kids regular ass wuppin is in order IMHO or these kids are a lost cause.

As for grow up and ignore it, Daddy needs to deal with this shit or he and his toxic harpy daughters need to GTFO of your home. I would not tolerate this shit for one more second if I were you. These poor little girls are burdened with a mother who is a vitriolic toxic POS and father who is a pussy.

If you can't proverbially beat some balls on to your husband and some sense in to his head then he has to go. For your wellbeing and that of your child who needs nothing from this demonstrated pussy of a "man" but support money. Lots, and lots of support money.

To get DH's attention you may want to video the toxic spawn doing their usual ranting bitchy behavior and post it to FM and YouTube directly mentioning DH and BM my name with a caption something along the lines of "This is the result of toxic spineless parents". }:) }:) }:)

IMHO of course.