He let you dodge a very big bullet. Let it go. He will always put her first. His "happiness" is cowtowing to her. That's what he chose. Please leave this alone and move on. This would be nothing but heartache- for any woman.

Yes, even if he were to backtrack later he has shown his true feelings at this point and they would return. It does not necessarily equate to being a good parent (understatement of the year) but who cares? YOu don't need a parent, you need a soulmate and he is not that.

Tanslation: the kid comes first, you're not even on the score board. But hey, He'd ike a booty call now and then.

He did you a huge favor by being up front. Believe him.

Thank your lucky stars this happened BEFORE marriage.

Many of us found this out afterwards and have paid a very heavy price.

You will miss him at first, you need to grieve the loss of the relationship. Take that time to grieve but under no circumstances should you email, text or call him. Nor should you return any emails, texts or calls from him.

Make this a clean break. He did you a favor. He does not value you as a person or life partner. His daughter is going to make his life hell and she will be competitive with any woman that crosses her father's path.

Please grieve over the loss and move on with your life. Gather your good friends around you, have a good cry. Have some wine. Toast your freedom to find a man that will treat your love as the precious thing it is.

Hugs and I toast your future.

I've been in one of these relationships. His translation: I'm too chicken shit to dump you for my own reasons so I will use a reason that that cannot be argued with (insert skid).

Let this relationship go. He will never come back to you, at most you will be a booty call and feel bad about it afterwards. Then you will feel horrible when you haven't moved on and you find out he is dating someone else.

Seriously. Move on. Or your heart will be broken even more.

Look, this is a bullshit excuse by a weasely non-man of no character to end a relationship that he is done with. He just is not man enough and does not have enough balls to end it with character and honor.

Even if this guy has an epiphany and comes crawling back begging to go back to the way it was, block his number and let him slime around pining for you.

Move on.

You do not want a man who allows his 18yo daughter to keep his man sack in her purse and allows her to take priority over his adult relationships.

Seriously, you don't want this guy.

Really!

^^^^^ What Rags and Midwest Stepmom said. He blamed his 18 year old daughter for the end of your relationship? This is NOT a guy you want long term, honestly!

it may be painful,but trust me sometime in the future you will be thankful he asked yout leave, he did a favor to you, so now do yourself a favor and find a man with no kids please, it is the best thing you can do

YOU ARE SO LUCKY. You're right to feel sorry for him. He will have a very hard time finding a decent woman who is also willing to be SM. Always keep this rule in the future: Do not even entertain the idea of dating a man with kids!!

I dated a guy with daughters in their 30s who were married with kids of their own, and the same thing happened. They were still angry about their parents divorce 13 years ago. They came just short of telling him the the did not deserve to be happy again. They also made some intimations that he should be focusing on being a good grandparent rather than a husband. When we would dine together, they would not speak to me. Two grown women with their own lives....

I tell you this because if a parent is willing to be manipulated by his child(ren) at any age the kids advancing into adulthood is not likely going to change that tendency. I am sorry for your pain, but you are better off, and one day you will see.

I loved this man. He had bought an engagement ring for me. I thought he was my future. I see now that I am lucky he was not, but it sure hurt a heck of a lot for a good while. My advice is to forget the friendship. Who knows maybe one day he will see the error of his ways, change, and come begging you to take him back, but now you need to live for you!

My guy came back too, and he wanted to be friends. It did not work, and it just prolonged the pain. He did not have the strength to deal with his kids and stand up for us. To this day, he has not introduced any woman to his kids, and is unable to sustain a relationship for long. All of the longing I used to feel for him has been replaced with pity. I know this because he periodically writes to me, telling me that I was his great love.... Too bad he did not think he deserved happiness. He never has confronted his daughters about this, and those girls who wanted him to be a doting grandpa, well they both moved across the country, soon after we broke up, so he is now alone day in and day out.

Watchthe movie "All That Heaven Allows" I bet his daughter is some combination of the two kids in the movie.

In my honest opinion, he was using his daughter as an excuse.

If I'm wrong and it really is because of her, then you have dodged a massive bullet.

And I feel sorry for your ex when his baby girl flies the nest and he realises he lost a good thing. Hopefully you havemoved in to something more deserving of your awesomeness by then don't let him come back and "settle" for you xx