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Article- Why nice woman don't like stepkids! Spot on

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Submitted by goincrazy.com on Tue, 05/06/2014 - 4:32pm

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jilldeibel.hubpages.com/hub/Why-Nice-Women-Dont-Like-Step-Kids (Sorry if it doesn't work, copy and paste into search engine)

I hope this link works, read it!!

Finally! Someone who knows what they are talking about Biggrin

I SO needed to read this today. FDH is an idiot asshole, and I'm not a bad person for feeling the way I do!

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Submitted by goincrazy.com on Wed, 05/07/2014 - 10:05am

I can relate to your post exactly! There is no solution, a damned if you do, damned if you don't situation. FDH is SO defensive, SD16 knows how to manipulate and "work" him. I feel resentment because I have to go through the motions with him every 2 months when she does this crap, so when she comes back around and I'm impatient with her bullshit antics then I'm the asshole because "why can't I let anything go? Why can't I just be happy she's back around again? I'm only upset because I hate when she's around because I hate his kid" Thats what it always boils down to, I hate his kid so it doesn't matter what she does, he has the excuse that I just don't like her....

It enrages me. Doesn't matter what she does, how she treats anybody, I just need to be the one that keeps giving with a smile on my face ready to worship the ground she walks on whenever she reappears into our lives. Fuck that.

And sending her away wouldn't solve all the issues but it would still be nice }:)

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Submitted by Calypso1977 on Wed, 05/07/2014 - 7:46am

very good article.
However, can we discuss this part for a minute:

"If you aren’t lucky enough to have step-children living out-of-state to reduce the interference of visitation time, then insist your husband conduct his visits outside of your home and communicate in other ways that don’t involve your family."

while this would be heaven (and often my fiance does try to take SD to his parents for a visit rather than be at our home) is this really fair or realistic? i mean, its his house too, would anyone REALLY ask/demand/expect their spouse to never bring his kid or kids to his own home?? also with overnights we all know this is impossible.