I have been painfully tolerating my 6 year old step son for about a year now. I feel like i got duped because my boyfriend and i have been together for about 4 years now. He told me he'd had a son when we first got together but said it was a very sad story and he didn't want to talk about it. I actually assumed there was a death and just let it go. About a year later he got papers from the court saying she had filed for child support. The whole story came out, he had a son that was three, the mother is a family law attorney and would not let him see his son. He tried to get a lawyer but kept getting turned down because none of them want to go up against her. So he just paid the child support but still never got to see him. Then i got pregnant and had my son, there were issues with drinking and i ended up giving him an ultimatum: me and my son or alcohol. He chose us, cleaned up his life and started being an amazing dad. After a couple of months he called up the ex and told her he was sober and wanted another chance to be a dad to his son. She agreed to let him pick him up from school once a week. They have been getting along, ss spends at least one evening a week with us, holidays, birthdays, family vacations too. They don't have a schedule set out, they just kind of work it out. Well she just told him that she is moving about 30 miles from us and wants him to have ss every other weekend and has papers for him to sign next time he comes. Here's the problem, my boyfriend and i are both bartenders, i work in the morning and afternoon at a golf course, he works at nightclub style bar. We both work every weekend and depend on those days to make money. Our schedule is so tight on weekends already we are like to ships passing in the night trying to make sure someone is always here to care for our 1 1/2 year old son without having to pay for a babysitter. I am so stressed out about how this is seriously going to disrupt our lives. On top of all this i cannot stand this little boy. He lies, he is rude, destructive, mean to my son, frequently has meltdown temper tantrums over nothing and clearly does not get discipline at home. The thought of having to deal with him alone every other weekend makes me want to cry. We don't have a big enough house for him to have a room so we would either have to move or he would have to sleep on the couch. I'm so frustrated because I'm kind of the do-er in our relationship but when it comes to dealing with her i have to just sit in the background and go along with whatever she decides. And he lets her push him around and does whatever she says and is constantly kissing her ass. He doesn't kiss my ass! Anyway i found this forum because i literally searched "i hate my step son" so it is nice to know there are other people out there who feel the same. And even if no one makes it through this big long rant it felt good to get it all off my chest. Any advice or "same boat" type of stories are welcome. Thanks for reading.