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Submitted by StepKat on Wed, 12/04/2013 - 11:40am

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I’ve been married now for 5 years to a wonderful man. He has 3 kids from a previous marriage. I love my step kids and would do anything for them. However, I feel lost and unappreciated at times with no one to talk to. To add to the complication of being a step mother, DH’s ex wife is completely crazy Sad . I can’t vent to DH about the crap she does because it stresses him out (the poor thing already has to deal with her insanity and is stuck in-between her and his family).

I hope I found a community here that I can turn to. I need an understand ear and advice at times from other who know what I’m going through. Smile

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Submitted by Patsy on Wed, 12/04/2013 - 11:57am

Welcome! You have come to the right place. I always feel better venting here. The BIO is not someone I like to talk about in my home. It's best to get it out here.

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Submitted by StepKat on Wed, 12/04/2013 - 12:06pm

Thank you Patsy. I try to avoid talking about the ex at home, but she drives me insane. Also, after DH and I have had the kids over a weekend (we get them 2 weekends a month and on holidays), my stress level is so high that I feel like I’m going to crawl out of my skin. I’ve actually decided I may not want kids of my own because of the over whelming drama it would create.

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Submitted by Patsy on Wed, 12/04/2013 - 12:14pm

My daughter is my saving grace in all of this madness. I have been doing this for 15 years now and I just don't know what I would do without her. Don't let this situation keep you away from having kids. I'm not saying it won't be hard, but oh the rewards are so worth it. What are the ages of the kids?

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Submitted by StepKat on Wed, 12/04/2013 - 12:21pm

SD is 13. SS1 is 11 and SS2 is 9. I love them very much. SD has some drama issues, SS1 hardly ever gets into trouble and SS2 can drive a sober man to drink lol

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Submitted by Patsy on Wed, 12/04/2013 - 1:08pm

13 for girls and mothers step or not is a hard year. Keep boundaries within your relationship with them and you will do fine. You love them and that is the best thing for everyone.

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Submitted by BadNanny on Wed, 12/04/2013 - 1:48pm

Just whisper to them "have you heard of rat poison?" haha JUST KIDDING!!! I kid a lot to stay sane! ... Well, I decided to do as much or as little as I want (need) to do. When I don't want to do it, I just DON'T. Simple. It helps me when I tell them "Don't get me in the middle of this, I'm just the nanny. A Bad Nanny, actually, since I am not even allowed to comment on parenting issues :P"... They get the clue that you have boundaries. You can do it! And yes, if there is one place where you can just vent, it's here! This place prolly saved my marriage and sanity!!!

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Submitted by StepKat on Wed, 12/04/2013 - 2:41pm

Thank you. I'm actually already feeling so much better. I was really feeling alone.