READ---> stepson, theif, liar
so I have been with a girl with 3 kids for 6 long years....the oldest is a 16 year old boy with a basket full of garbage with him. Liar=he lies so effortlessly its sick, every word is a lie. I cant even have a conversation with him cuz I cant respond to every lie as though its true and don't care to call BS on everything. Thief= stole since childhood, pphones game systems and even breaking and entering.. been arrested for possession of stolen goods.
Well I heard him snort something last night in his room, I looked around and think its vicoden he is snorting. anyway this morn when he went to school and I looked in his room(my house, f his privacy) I found a journal saying how abused he is, mentally and phyisically. I have never even come close to touching him, I leave it to his mom. The journal basically cried about how he has a terrible life and horrible home life. His mother and I own a retail store and work so hard for our money, all he wants is handouts. Im getting tired of typing im so furious. either way he is a unlikeable asshole. mean to his brother n sis smart mouth to his mom. I HATE HIM SO MUCH..HATE HATE HATE HATE HATE. how do I get through the next 2 years. he is ungrateful lazy loud rude every thing about him I hate. sneaky lying piece of crap. help I wanna literally kill myself he makes my life so bad. always crying lying and acting like a jerk. I hate him
Military school ???
Military school ??? Wilderness camp ?? Boot camp ???
Is your girlfriend able to
Is your girlfriend able to see his character? Does she do anything to address it?
Allowing him to get away with
Allowing him to get away with all he does will only make him worse. Have consequences for every action. You will be hated...I am. My SD was similar. She started hurting my kids and I began to fear for my life and the lives of my children. I gave DH an ultimatum to get her in a treatment center, juvenile hall, with family...whatever...but she could no longer stay in my home. Mine also told lies about me abusing her...don't think that is solely in his journal. That was another reason she was kicked out. To hell if some rotten brat is going to get my precious children taken away from me. SD is a horrible person. She has Reactive Attachment Disorder...look it up and see if that is what is wrong with your SS. We went through about five therapists before she was diagnosed. Not a good prognosis for change, but at least we have a name now.
Oh yeah, and call the police and have the boy sent to juvenile hall! You have to leave a paper trail...if he does something really horrible some day, no one will believe you if that was the first thing on his record. Help get his record going.
He definitely needs to get
He definitely needs to get some counseling and treatment if he is going to stay for another 2 years. If he's wrote in his journal that you are abusing him, chances are that he has or is willing to tell someone else the same story. You shouldn't be expected to live like this. And no child wins when they are allowed to continue these behaviors without consequence or serious intervention. It is not healthy for him. Stop the hand outs - especially if his behavior is crap!
Good luck
Thanks for replies, yes she
Thanks for replies, yes she knows he is always a problem. He doesn't get away with anything. He is a difficult child. He didn't directly say I abuse him but blames his mother for everything. Here I am a bio free step dad providing a safe warm home, children all have their own rooms own dish TV in room etc... and all he does is cry and mope. He is to the age he can pitch in and help around house, its like pulling teeth to get him to do a dish...his journal even says "they make me clean and don't make sibs work" well other two are 9 and 11 so obviously 16 will have more to do. I'm tired of himruining our home. He makes himself different by being difficult. The vicoden are coming from his gf. She had a knee surgery I don't know how they continue getting them but its def not allowed in my house.