No Visitation = No Check = Court Ordered Visitation???
First, let me start by saying that we I (DH and I) both believe in paying CS and we have and will continue to pay.
Second, The goal of this question is not to avoid paying, but to find out what options are available.
So here is the situation....2 sd's (sd16 and sd20)... I know that the sd20 is no longer an issue with the courts because she is seen as an adult. But, the BM has engaged in, what I believe to be, parental alienation. So much so that the sd's have cut off all communication, removed dh from facebook, won't come for visitation because they are "mad at him" over the divorce. This is fueled by the BM and her bitterness.
Is there anything that can be done to help get some sort of visitation with the dh started again? If he is not "allowed" to see his dd's because the BM won't let him, then what are the consequences to those kinds of behaviors?
Thanks for your help
PS> Again, not trying to get out of any responsibility, just want to try and get a visitation thing started again.....
Your dh needs to show up for
Your dh needs to show up for visitation, if denied document it then file with the family courts that bm violated the visitation schedule. Bm can say whatever she wants, but until your dh shows up to get kids for visitation and bm does not allow kids to go then she technically hasn't done anything wrong.
There are no consequences in
There are no consequences in most cases.
The court also doesn't care if your DH gets to see his kids ever or not. They still make him pay CS.
Unfortunately the courts
Unfortunately the courts consider support and visitation to be unrelated. In fact in most jurisdictions it is illegal for a CP to withhold visitation from a dead beat NCP who does not pay their CS obligation.
However, the courts are also far more aggressive in nailing NCPs for non payment than they ever are about nailing manipulative CPs for not surrendering the kids for NCP visitation.
My DW is the CP in our blended family adventure and we made sure to enforce SS visiting his SpermIdiot and the SpermClan. Though we had no respect and for them and still don't we considered it important for SS-21 ro have a relionship with his SpermClan during the 17 years that the CO was in force.
Finally after the first 9 years of $110/mo to $133/mo pittance in CS my DW finally started nailing the SpermIdiot to the CS wall. This most in response to their toxic manipulations. Beating them with the money stick worked well as a STFU tool.
It makes me sick that's some
It makes me sick that's some woman that receive CS play games with their kids , she know its a win win for her she get the money and kids don't have to see kids! I can say this because it is happening in my life! I am also a DM that gets child support, and there is no way I would keep my son away from his father, he has every other weekend and whenever else he wants him, you do whats best for the kids, you don't brainwash, because it only comes back to you!! My SD better realize how good her father is to her and stop letting her mother brainwash her