Dreading the return on the underachiever
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SS18 is moving back home after moving in with his father out of town, whom he hadn't seen in 12 years. Didn't graduate from high school when he was here but swears that he wants to go back and finish. Unfortunately, have heard this all before but am hopeful that his living with his POS father has opened his eyes to show him how good he has had it here and what he doesn't want to become. Sure looming forward to Eddie Haskell coming home.
That is my Fear when my Step
That is my Fear when my Step Sons turn 18. I feel for you.
Thought he would have grown
Thought he would have grown up over the last 8 months and not want to come back as he hates it here. 18 means nothing when they don't get it. Time to try to disengage yet again.
If he hates it why let him
If he hates it why let him stay? At some point he has to be responsible for himself, and the right thing to do is to push him on his ass so he gets reality. I find kids have a hard time understanding reality with all the handouts we get these days.
Exactly. My wife will always
Exactly. My wife will always bails him out and we fight if I express my opinion I wouldn't mind if he actually could hold a job or go to classes or try hard at either. That would be bearable.
Well if you read my post i
Well if you read my post i did, then your at the place im at. I love my wife more than anything. However, if im going to be miserable for my life whats the point. You got to make it you or the kid. If the kid has no hope and wont do anything then hes got to go until he realizes his mistake then u can bring him back under conditions but if they aren't met then he goes. Thats tough love, but the other option wont be doing him any favors.
Agreed. I am stepping back
Agreed. I am stepping back and just going to wait. Either he has changed and learned which would be great or he hasn't. The wife will accept his bs for a short while only and then it will be time for decisions. It sure has been quiet here though until we got word of this.
That's the peace I yearn for.
That's the peace I yearn for. The Quiet. Don't let your wife accept the bs either, they tend to feel guilty in their parenting decisions call her out on it. Lay everything on the table before he comes back so it wont seem emotional reactions later
Today is the day. We will
Today is the day. We will see how long the honeymoon lasts between them.