So further to my previous post about the dreaded annual birthday dinner (lunch) for H's eldest and I, H receives a call on his cell phone from his daughter saying there is an event for SGS that day (the day of course that she already choose for us to do the lunch) and asking H about us all going to see SGS's event or not, do the lunch or make it a dinner, yada yada

First of all, this lunch isn't being held for H and his daughter it's been held for H's daughter and me. So it's irritating of course that H daughter calls him about it, rather than me. And she makes sure to only speak with H about it by calling him on his cell, not the home phone of course

This may seem minor but believe me it's H's daughter's way of trying to play the little mini-wife 'it's between me and my dad' trip on everything, including anything related to me. For example, one of the last times H's daughter pulled this was when H and I were thinking of purchasing a new stove for our home. The company H's daughter worked at then sold this so H called his daughter asking if she could get us a deal

H's daughter comes over to our place for dinner shortly after that, and she has a print-out of a few stove options. She and H discussed them and his daughter didn't once so much as consult with me on them as well. H and her decided and then H asks me about going to see them. I told H after she left in no uncertain terms that he and his daughter were not deciding what stove to put in MY home. Especially since I would be the one using the stove - and often to cook the dinners his daughter ate when she was at our place. Grrrrr!!!

Another time H wanted a new vacuum (he likes to vacuum what can I say LOL) however obviously we both would use it. H went through his daughter and she pulled the same crap. H and her decided on the vacuum and she brought it over to our place. H had a bunch of questions which his daughter and SSIL answered. I was half paying attention as I was cooking everyone dinner. But I had a question and walked over to ask H's daughter and asked her. She said to me "I've already talked to my dad about that" and completely brushed me off. Did I want to slap her face?!!! Oh ya

Then there was the time she was living with us and flipped out when I mentioned to H I would like to put a nice black throw-rug on our light hardwood floors. I had been talking with H sort of thinking out loud and his daughter, then a teenager, started rudely demanding why on earth I would do something like cover up the beautiful hardwood floors. It was a ridiculous comment from her just based on the fact it wouldn't cover up the floors but merely accentuate them but more importantly, none of her business what I put on the floor in MY home. Especially since she didn't so much as lift her plate from the table after dinner let alone actually contribute to the mortgage. Grrrr!!!!

So yes this latest little call/question to H from her is small. But I know it's just her irritating way of acting like the only request that will matter to H is hers of course :sick: But I really don't know why she doesn't give it up already :? H doesn't make the same mistakes he made in the past with excluding me and giving her all thIS power. She gets shown this from H time and time again. It must make her feel upset that H isn't falling for her crap. Yet she continues to pull all these little things, even minor like this

As we were just leaving a restaurant with friends when H's daughter called asking him about going to SGS's event, etc..etc... and H knows not to make plans effecting me with her without consulting with me first, H told her he would have to phone her back

So far I don't think he has...