Hi there,

Well for some quick background when I met my husband he was already divorced for 11 years and raising his son by himself. The biomom began using drugs and when he gave her the ultimatum to either stop or leave and she left and began prostituting, leaving her 6 month old baby behind. She never sends money for him, never buys him anything he needs, and only sees him on weekends when she has time and can find someone to give her a ride. She does text and call him alot though. However their son is almost thirteen now and I told him up front I am not trying to be his mom or replace her and he can think of me like an older sister since I am 24 and his dad is 45.I never discipline him I leave that to his dad. I do not yell at him or anything. I cook for him I have taken him to school, I buy him things he needs, I look out for him all while working full time and going to school. I do not have kids of my own so I know he cant feel bad about that and his dad never goes out with me without him. In a year and a half we have had only 3 dinner dates without him because his dad never wants him to feel left out. After all this sacrifice I discover he HATES me. On his facebook he posted, " my stepmom is so obnoxious i want to stab her and laugh about it." He then tells his real mom I am so annoying and he feels his dad replaced him with me and lied saying his dad beats him and he lives in a bad environment and needs to live with her. At this point his dad spoke to the mom and she says I dont want him to live with me he has to stay there I can just see him on weekends. So now the kid is acting nice but I dont trust it, he has shown himself to be manipulative and sneaky. He lies straight to your face even when you have proof and show it to him he keeps lying. I dont understand what is wrong with him. He argues with his dad about bathing he pretends to shower by runnimg the water but then comes out of the bathroom still smelling like a homeless person, he is 13 and still pisses all over the toilet seat and ground in the bathroom after we repeatedly tell him to stop. He hides food and drinks and lets them rot in his closet, he is doing bad in school, he never opens up about his feelings, and honestly Im starting to become scared of him. i love my husband and dont want to leave but knowing his son feels that way about me after I take care of him and treat him better than his own mother has made me shut down to him. I now have no feelings for him and I am begining to resent him and his existence. Why is this happening and how does this get fixed???