Step mom caregiver?
So in the newest papers from our custody battle with BM she has a whole page dedicated to not wanting me to be a caregiver for the boys ss11 and ss8. Stating he has the right to refusal and does not want me caring for the boys if my husband is working. As their legal married step mom does she have the right to do that? She has no comings as to why (although I know it's just bitter jealousy) The boys love spending time with me and she hasn't had complaints prior to us being married about me picking them up
Or bringing them to their sports games. But now she wants the courts to make a judgement that if my husband isn't home I cannot care for them therefore they can't be here unless he is here. I feel as though since there is no abuse or neglect on my part she should be happy they are safe with me. I am a pediatric nurse as well. Will the courts play into this game?
***slowly raising hand*** SS
***slowly raising hand***
SS stays with me when DH is traveling. ***running for cover under my desk*** don't slap me Echo.
sks spend more time with me
sks spend more time with me than anyone else... but then again BM is a crazy lunatic and most legal people recognize that
NOOOOOooooooooo NOT THE
NOOOOOooooooooo NOT THE BACON! Slap me, spank me, do whatever you need... just don't take the bacon!
BM doesn't want him anyways, and I am more than happy to keep him
It was just SS and I last night (the girls went out of town for their grandfathers funeral). We played ping pong, made home made pizza, did homework, read a book and watched a movie. I <3 that kid 
***sobs*** fine... take it.
***sobs*** fine... take it. It's not even chocolate covered anyways...
But I am still keeping my SS when DH is gone. Na na na naaaa naaaaaaaa
}:) 
}:)
I think you know my situation is a bit different than most. SS is better off with me and BM knows it.
You don't have any rights to
You don't have any rights to those children, you are not "legally their stepmother" so get that line of thinking out of your head.You have ZERO legal rights to them. Your being married to their father is completely irrelevant.
Yes, their mother has the right to say if he isn't there then he needs to return the kids to her and not leave them with you.
WHY are you getting so worked up about it? Most of us, the BM gladly dumps her kids on us when their fathers aren't around. Do you have any idea how GOOD it is for you that you won't have to deal with his kids alone?!?
I don't see it as having to
I don't see it as having to "deal"with his kids. I love having them around and never feel as though they are being dumped on me. They are children not chores or an inconvenience. We are family and that's the way it should be. She had no problems in the past but since we are married now she has become angry and bitter. I refuse to become that person.
If the kids get home from
If the kids get home from school at 3 and my husband gets home at 4 I am home with them for 1 hour.
This is an interesting twist.
This is an interesting twist. Many SMs complain about BMs doing everything in their power to get rid of their kids. This one has an issue with BM wanting her children. LOLOLOL
It's not that she'd rather
It's not that she'd rather have the kids. It's she would give them to her many boyfriends to watch rather than me just out I spite. I should have been clearer. She is pulling a double standard. Just Saturday night when we should have had them she said she had plans but when my husband spoke with the kids yesterday BM went out Saturday and left the boys with an ex boyfriend. It's spite
Did something prompt her to
Did something prompt her to file this court motion or was it part of another motion?
Yes, I think she does have a right to do this. I understand how upsetting it would be though. I'm sorry.
This is a battle you shouldn't fight. If the courts grant it (and they probably will unless she is one that always goes in front of a judge for every little thing) then offer the children to her every single time their dad can't be there. I bet she gets sick of it and lets them to stay sometimes.