Sd comes over tonight with conjunctivitis an I gets yelled at by dh cause I said to him I don't was sd touching the baby. How am I effin wrong???? I swear I can't do this anymore
Then why the hell did I just get yelled at?? I was told to stop by someone se when I asked my dh to tell sd not to touch the baby. Someone else said its fine as long as she doesn't touch her eye then immediately touch baby and dh hasn't stayed on top of it. BUT I can't effin say anything wtf am I suppose to do just have no say. Cause everyone seems to think its no big deal!
Conjunctivitis is contagious and it is kind of a big deal. You are not in the wrong, here. These skids can do no fvcking wrong in the eyes of our stupid dh's. My dh is the same way....his ex wife's worthless, overgrown brats are flawless as far as he's concerned. Makes me sick. :sick:
You aren't wrong for not wanting her near the baby. It's very contagious. I think maybe the way you go about things may not be working for you however. I think that you went about it in a way that made your DH feel that you were treating his DD like a leper and excluding her and if course any parent will take offense to that especially if their child is sick. It's not her fault she's sick either. I think that having a quick family meeting, including your SD and kindly telling her that you are really sorry that she is sick and because you know how bad that must feel, you really don't want the baby to be sick as well. Then lay out the boundaries, hand washing, separate (special) dishes for her and maybe spend a few minutes talking about ways to make her feel better too would go a long way in uniting the family by NOT excluding his DD. just my opinion.
There's no excluding. I didn't say she couldn't be around or that she had to stay out of the room. Just asked dh to not allow her to hold or touch the baby. She's 8 she doesn't need to be spoken too like she is 4. Dh told her that she wasn't going to hold the baby cause we didn't want her to get sick. An he told her it wasn't a punishment just being cautious. Give me a break she's 8 going on 15. She doesn't need to be told its not a punishment she knows she is sick. And second she doesn't get punished for anything anyways.
Oh I feel your pain my SD comes over sick all the time. I tell her get to close to baby when she's hacking up a lung but the second I turn my back she's in the babies face & SO is right there allowing it to happen... Ughhgh sometimes I think he's just as much an oblivious ass as SD!
Your baby would certainly have contracted conjunctivitis, there is no doubting that. It's highly contagious. It wouldn't have been life threatening, but having to put a baby on antibiotic drops is definitely something that you would want to avoid. I understand that.
I am wondering though, if you have another child, and your firstborn develops conjunctivitis, will you keep that child out if the house and away from your baby to prevent cross infection, of course not. You are 100% right in wanting her not to touch the baby. Your husband needs to understand why. He cannot indulge his daughter and compromise your baby's health. But keeping his daughter out of the house seems a step too far.
I think you and your dh need to have a chat about this and find some middle ground. You cannot expect him to give up time with his daughter every time she is sick. You cannot be expected to allow her to play with the baby. He needs to be mindful that it's not good to put babies on antibiotics and he needs to be more responsible about the health of the baby and set boundaries for his daughter.
We weren't even at home she doesn't come to our house. We going to a relatives house. And yes kids gets sick. But yet I'm wrong for wanting to protect my only 2minth old. Yea shell get sick but what mother wouldn't want to protect them from not getting sick especially at only 2 months old
Exactly Queencow. I think Steptalk is a great place to get on and safely vent all our frustrations. But it does bother me that often people will give responses that back up hatred and even out and out cruelty. It's okay to not critisize what the poster rights, the way it's written, or the language used. But in the spirit of understanding the frustration and hopelessness of the situation the original poster/s feel, we shouldn't be going yeah your right, go get 'em. Understanding how they feel, but not agreeing necessarily with their actions is support too.
The voice of reason will help her marriage far more than, yeah, you're right keep the kid out. It's conjunctivitis, not smallpox. While I understand how we feel about our babies getting sick, especially first babies, she has a marriage to worry about to. Hygiene and common sense need to be applied here, not refusing the child and her father their access visit. But, the dad also needs to apply some common sense and he needs to be more understanding. But then again, maybe the real reason he was yelling was because he was being told to keep his firstborn out.
Lice is a pain in the butt and a lot of hard work. A lot of work. But same rules apply. If the bio parent wants the child with lice, no reason the bio parent can't pick up head lice treatment on the way home with the child and treat the child the second he/ she brings them in the door. Straight to the laundry or bathroom and start treating.
Uhhhhhhh.... no. You are not
Uhhhhhhh.... no. You are not wrong.
Then why the hell did I just
Then why the hell did I just get yelled at?? I was told to stop by someone se when I asked my dh to tell sd not to touch the baby. Someone else said its fine as long as she doesn't touch her eye then immediately touch baby and dh hasn't stayed on top of it. BUT I can't effin say anything wtf am I suppose to do just have no say. Cause everyone seems to think its no big deal!
Conjunctivitis is contagious
Conjunctivitis is contagious and it is kind of a big deal. You are not in the wrong, here. These skids can do no fvcking wrong in the eyes of our stupid dh's. My dh is the same way....his ex wife's worthless, overgrown brats are flawless as far as he's concerned. Makes me sick. :sick:
Yup - agree wit this ^^ moron
Yup - agree wit this
moron is an insensitive dickhead.
You aren't wrong for not
You aren't wrong for not wanting her near the baby. It's very contagious. I think maybe the way you go about things may not be working for you however. I think that you went about it in a way that made your DH feel that you were treating his DD like a leper and excluding her and if course any parent will take offense to that especially if their child is sick. It's not her fault she's sick either. I think that having a quick family meeting, including your SD and kindly telling her that you are really sorry that she is sick and because you know how bad that must feel, you really don't want the baby to be sick as well. Then lay out the boundaries, hand washing, separate (special) dishes for her and maybe spend a few minutes talking about ways to make her feel better too would go a long way in uniting the family by NOT excluding his DD. just my opinion.
There's no excluding. I
There's no excluding. I didn't say she couldn't be around or that she had to stay out of the room. Just asked dh to not allow her to hold or touch the baby. She's 8 she doesn't need to be spoken too like she is 4. Dh told her that she wasn't going to hold the baby cause we didn't want her to get sick. An he told her it wasn't a punishment just being cautious. Give me a break she's 8 going on 15. She doesn't need to be told its not a punishment she knows she is sick. And second she doesn't get punished for anything anyways.
Oh I feel your pain my SD
Oh I feel your pain my SD comes over sick all the time. I tell her get to close to baby when she's hacking up a lung but the second I turn my back she's in the babies face & SO is right there allowing it to happen... Ughhgh sometimes I think he's just as much an oblivious ass as SD!
Not to get close to baby*
Not to get close to baby*
I guess I made my point
I guess I made my point clear. Dh just called on his way back from work an dh is staying at bm's
Sd is staying at bm's. not
Sd is staying at bm's. not dh. Lol LNG if that was even the case he would be a dead man lol
Oh whew! I wondered if this
Oh whew! I wondered if this was a typo or Not lol
Your baby would certainly
Your baby would certainly have contracted conjunctivitis, there is no doubting that. It's highly contagious. It wouldn't have been life threatening, but having to put a baby on antibiotic drops is definitely something that you would want to avoid. I understand that.
I am wondering though, if you have another child, and your firstborn develops conjunctivitis, will you keep that child out if the house and away from your baby to prevent cross infection, of course not. You are 100% right in wanting her not to touch the baby. Your husband needs to understand why. He cannot indulge his daughter and compromise your baby's health. But keeping his daughter out of the house seems a step too far.
I think you and your dh need to have a chat about this and find some middle ground. You cannot expect him to give up time with his daughter every time she is sick. You cannot be expected to allow her to play with the baby. He needs to be mindful that it's not good to put babies on antibiotics and he needs to be more responsible about the health of the baby and set boundaries for his daughter.
This! What will OP do when
This!
What will OP do when she has multiple kids and one of them gets sick?
It's seems as much as we
It's seems as much as we bitch the rules are different that often we are guilty of it ourselves.
We weren't even at home she
We weren't even at home she doesn't come to our house. We going to a relatives house. And yes kids gets sick. But yet I'm wrong for wanting to protect my only 2minth old. Yea shell get sick but what mother wouldn't want to protect them from not getting sick especially at only 2 months old
Exactly Queencow. I think
Exactly Queencow. I think Steptalk is a great place to get on and safely vent all our frustrations. But it does bother me that often people will give responses that back up hatred and even out and out cruelty. It's okay to not critisize what the poster rights, the way it's written, or the language used. But in the spirit of understanding the frustration and hopelessness of the situation the original poster/s feel, we shouldn't be going yeah your right, go get 'em. Understanding how they feel, but not agreeing necessarily with their actions is support too.
The voice of reason will help her marriage far more than, yeah, you're right keep the kid out. It's conjunctivitis, not smallpox. While I understand how we feel about our babies getting sick, especially first babies, she has a marriage to worry about to. Hygiene and common sense need to be applied here, not refusing the child and her father their access visit. But, the dad also needs to apply some common sense and he needs to be more understanding. But then again, maybe the real reason he was yelling was because he was being told to keep his firstborn out.
And that Rising is the secret
And that Rising is the secret to your success. Your husband backing you.
Lice is a pain in the butt
Lice is a pain in the butt and a lot of hard work. A lot of work. But same rules apply. If the bio parent wants the child with lice, no reason the bio parent can't pick up head lice treatment on the way home with the child and treat the child the second he/ she brings them in the door. Straight to the laundry or bathroom and start treating.