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Saw this article today .. dad pays CS for a kid he has 96% of the time

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Submitted by SMof2Girls on Tue, 08/13/2013 - 3:12pm

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Makes me glad my DH isn't THAT guy .. it blows my mind if the case facts this writer states are really true ..

http://www.fathersandfamilies.org/2011/09/01/tv-star-jon-cryer-must-pay-...

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Submitted by dragonfly5 on Tue, 08/13/2013 - 3:17pm

My DH paid full child support on his skids when I met him and had them 65% of the time.
Oh, but the times have changed...... }:)

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Submitted by sburz on Tue, 08/13/2013 - 9:16pm

Times have not changed.

My BF has his kids 75% of the time. Their mother is disabled so the income is disportionate that he has to pay child support. In addition, she receives 100% of the SSID the federal government provides to care for the kids even though the kids are in her care only 25% of the time.

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Submitted by SMof2Girls on Tue, 08/13/2013 - 3:45pm

We have skids 45% of the time and our state calculator says DH is obligated to $12/month. He actually pays $240 because we're mid-change order and she recently moved, etc etc etc. We'll be doing a modification very soon.

But yeah, at 50/50 it seems each parent should be responsible for providing half the cost of th kids. The income factor really makes it loopy sometimes.

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Submitted by SMof2Girls on Tue, 08/13/2013 - 3:47pm

My expectations for what I think this country SHOULD be and what I think people in this country SHOULD do are very low .. it doesn't take much to realize how over-hyped we've made ourselves as a people.

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Submitted by Anne Boleyn on Tue, 08/13/2013 - 3:55pm

I know. My mother was royally screwed by my step father (bio to my sibs). He left her high and dry, lived like a king, was self employed and lies on his taxes, simply hardly ever paid. Because he lived in another state, there were no consequences. So I have always been an advocate of tough child support laws. But now it seems these BMs get away with hardly working, claiming hardship and poverty and cashing big checks like there is no tomorrow. Can we just have some balance?

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Submitted by CassieGal on Tue, 08/13/2013 - 4:52pm

That's us!! We have SD 100% of the time and pay BM $1400/ month. Catch is if we file to modify she will not agree and will force SD to go back to her house!!!

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Submitted by Queencow on Tue, 08/13/2013 - 5:23pm

I HAVE to believe eventually status quo/child's desires would come into play here - thats just plain nuts....

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Submitted by not2sureimsanea... on Tue, 08/13/2013 - 6:51pm

Can't you prove SD is at your place all the time and after you get enough proof you take it to a judge?

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Submitted by theoutsider on Tue, 08/13/2013 - 8:20pm

“Judge, it’s true I can earn a living but haven’t lifted a finger to do so for six years, and it’s true I lost custody because I’m dangerous to the children in my care, but my ex-wife needs to pay me a large sum of money every month for a child I rarely see and we need to pretend it’s child support.”

WTF --- Yeah if the sexes were reversed, this is a load of BS that he has to do this.

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Submitted by Igiveupsotornup... on Thu, 08/15/2013 - 11:56am

Ummm yep! Been there. The SDs are now adults but my husband got roped into court even though he had them 90% of the time and had to pay BM 437.00 a month since she was collecting state benefits, food stamps, insurance ect. Found out later in life that it was due to her claiming the kids when she never should have been. Also found out lately from BMs now ex 2nd husband that she and him were claiming the girls on taxes every year when that also was not supposed to be. Yep sometimes the man gets screwed in court. Sad. I hated that check going to her every month and knowing that it was us who paid for everything, clothing, food (yes sometimes had to pack food for the girls since they didn't have any at BMs even though she got almost 300 a month in food stamps). We paid all school fees, everything. Drivers ed. you name it we paid. In the end we are considered the bad parents by the one SD who has turned to drugs and her rotton boyfriend but that's only due to my husband cutting her off from all money since he found out she was into drugs. So she hates us now. BM always no matter how much she works, says she is broke. She still tries to sneak and ask for money through the rotton SD and we say NOPE. Ugh I could go on and on about how my hubby got screwed.

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Submitted by SanAntonioSoccerMom on Sat, 08/17/2013 - 12:53pm

This happens in "income share states" when there is a large disparity in income between the two parties. My husband had his kids 24/7/365 for 17 years with ZERO from his ex, but he dealt with an income share model that allows for thing like this. Luckily for him, it never happened even though there is a huge disparity in income.

CA and NM are the two states that I can think of off of the top of my head.