How did the Biomom/Biodad in your life react when you got preggo/married?
My recent blog about BM texting Dh pictures of Ss5 when he was a newborn got me interested in your stories of how your bm's reacted to when you guys got married and/or got pregnant for the first time.
Dh and I got married and are now having a baby and Bm, who recently found out has suddenly got engaged to her Bf of 2 months and also has started texting Dh pictures of Ss when he was a newborn, no message or anything, just the pictures at the hospital the day he was born. Being that these text mssg's have happened when Ss is with us I feel like it's her being insecure? I don't know. Also Dh and Bm don't usually text pictures of Ss to eachother. I just hope this is the extent of wackyness that comes from that way haha. 
So what's your story? Did the Biomom/biodad get a little looney when these life changing events happend to you???
wow, I almost felt sorry for
wow, I almost felt sorry for the Biodad and then I read your last sentence. I'm glad he regressed though and didn't get batsh*t crazy.
Bm's acting crazy is somewhat
Bm's acting crazy is somewhat expected I think, but the kids? that's sad. Ss is super excited about his new brother or sister... I know though with what i've read here that that can change if Bm starts to PAS but I hope that doesn't happen.
We are beginning to go
We are beginning to go through this...FDH got 20 texts in an hour this last week...one saying she " holds all the cards in their relationship, and he better not forget it". Sweet as pie two days later. I don't get her personality flips.
lol, she holds the cards??
lol, she holds the cards?? what does that even mean?? like holds the cards for the kids and their dad? what a fool. It's like, move on with your life lady. The silly thing to me is the Bm here is the one who cheated on Dh and thus their relationship dissolved. and she's had a revolving door of men since then. it's so silly to me.
Pretty much. She was going
Pretty much. She was going on about how she doesn't have to let him see his daughter (where do these BMs get the idea they have that power?) He's great at ignoring her when she gets like that and we back up all her texts to email, paper trial.
yup this is why i don't get
yup this is why i don't get remarried. the BM is a psychopath, so jealous and sick beyond. she knows we are engaged and lost her mind! threatened everything under the sun. has kids the same way.
UGH... so our time will come and move far away! seems everyone goes through this. Shame, i try so hard to even be nice to my exs New GF and get treated like crap.. so i get it from all sides! where are the success stories of Step-parenting?? are there any???
OMG! its the same bitch! my
OMG! its the same bitch! my fiances Ex just got remarried and had twins in her late 40s cause she knows child support on the first 2 will be up and she had to snag this one! yes, we will be eloping and not telling anyone for quite awhile! where is Karma????
I've posted it a zillion
I've posted it a zillion times but even I can't believe that BM deliberately chose not to tell DH that their older son (34) died - right after he and I got together. They'd been sort of friendly up till then. Been divorced 20 years or more.
OMG thats terrible. so sorry!
OMG thats terrible. so sorry!
I met a guy recently who had
I met a guy recently who had the same exact thing happen to him. I couldn't believe more than one BM could pull something so awful.
I started dating - XH freaked
I started dating - XH freaked out, said it wasn't right for the kids and noone should date
I got engaged, my XH told me it was too soon after the divorce, you know for the kids and it was unfair to them
DH and I bought a house - XH told me I couldn't move in just being engaged, it was wrong... for the kids it wasn't teaching them proper morals
XH demanded to see the home to which HIS CHILDREN would be staying in and proceeded to invite himself to walk around my new home to which I told him to leave and he didn't need a 'tour'
DH and I got married - XH was very upset he wasn't invited to the wedding, you know... for the kids and thought he should be part of it
XH started dating - never heard a word.
XH moved the GF into his house - I got no notice, heard it from BD10 at the time
XH knocked up the GF - heard it from BD6 at the time
XH had quickie marriage in LV, NV right after baby birth - wasn't informed other than he asked me to watch the kids on a weekend as he had made other plans and forgot it was his weekend
LMAO - double standard much?!?!?
I think my exH might be a
I think my exH might be a little sad. I'm not sure if that has anything to do with me or that the kids were getting a stepfather whom they love. I shudder to think about telling him one day. He's never gone on a date since we split up. I'm not sure what his plans are but he didn't really like being married so maybe he just wants to be alone.
BM got engaged a second after she knew someone because she ASSUMED that my SO and I were heading for the alter. And at first I was irritated that she did something so stupid, but now I just laugh. SO and I are taking our time. We are not in a rush. She may be divorced from her guy before I marry SO. We want to make sure things are right and we're not rushing this.
As for a baby - I'm sure BM holds herself so proud that she got to have his children. But that really doesn't bother me either because between us, we have 5 kids and we are happy with our family and I'm not looking to grow it. It does not bother me one iota that she has that 'life long bond' that BMs talk about when you have a kid with someone. Now, she's supporting her life long bonds on welfare she's looking for new baby daddies. She's got lifelong bonds with lots of men.
We have a canvas in our home with a tree trunk and each of the five kids hand prints in different shades of green, gold, and yellow representing a tree. I painted 'Like branches on a tree, though we may grow in different directions, our roots remain as one.' That's my family. I don't need to give birth to a baby of ours to feel legitimized.
BM got pissed and yelled at
BM got pissed and yelled at the skids. (Pretty much your normal day)
My dh had been separated from
My dh had been separated from bm for many years and she was always fine with me. But when dh told her he was finally filing for divorce and marrying me apparently she snapped. At the time dh's eldest daughter was getting along with us and not so much with bm, and she was at our house telling dh and I how bm freaked...and based on how ysd was suddenly cool and distant there for awhile I figured bm had been saying a bunch of stuff to her too. I heard through the grapevine bm told ysd she would now have to pay rent because dh wouldn't be paying any more support for her since he was marrying me - ysd was 22 at the time!!!
But, once we came home from overseas where we married (and bought and paid for sd's tickets, dresses, jewelry, etc.. as they were there with us) bm surprised me by telling dh to congratulate me, and apparently she meant it sincerely