Hello! I am 58 years old, married to husband 28 years, never had children with my husband or anybody and husband has 2 daughters 49,51 and son 50. We have enjoyed a good relationship up until 03/2012. Their father is 15 years older than I am he is 74 and is still working. 3 years ago he had a back injury then a car accident (not his fault) and 2 more back surgeries. Of course their was a lawsuit against the at fault party. I started having neck pain in 2011 and was finally diagnosed 11/2011 with surgery scheduled in 03/2012. My husbands final back surgery was 01/2012. He did fine and we are hopeful he can play golf again. 12/2011 we went to SD house for Christmas and DH was drinking and I was taking pain medicine. DH got drunk and could not drive us home. no other at the gathering offered so I drove. We got home fine but I was impaired. SD did not work and asked if she could help us with the attorney stuff (CAR Accident) since we were both in pain and I was working. In one of the meetings she and her dad attended, the attorney talked down to her and really ticked SD off. DH kids are all very aggressive opinionated, intolerant people. Just like dad. I happened to be an insurance agent for 25 years. It became very obvious that SD was obsessed and with her words "taking attorney down" It got personal. Day and night she would be calling her father and myself and anybody else that would listen to her. The case was going to be settled and there was an amount of money in the policy (contract) and attorney got 33%. DH and myself just wanted to settle and move on. But sd was not through with the attorney. She was going to make his life miserable with the Bar Assoc.ect. and try to get his fees. We are talking a seasoned trail attorney and a very simple insurance contract. On a Sat morning DH told SD we were moving on with the lawyer and just wanted it over. We were on speaker phone and I went to say something and SD said SHUT-UP. Well I was home 1 week from surgery and call it pain medicine or whatever but I told her You will never tell me to shut up again. SD and sister have had a battled relationship forever. SD calls back and says to me now I have to make up with my sister because if dad can't work my brother and I's family will be financially devastated. So here is the root... money. After this happened I got a feeling from the way my husband was acting that something was going on. So I checked his emails and sure enough, sd had convince all siblings I was a drug addict and needed help. ( I am not any such thing). I saw where my DH had given prescription receipts to her over the internet and she sent them to my grand daughter pharmacist for analysis. The list was of trail and error drugs before my surgery and drugs prescribed after surgery. Many I was no longer taking . I had herniated disks lying on my spinal cord. Yes I was on pain medication, muscle relaxers. They continued to collaborate via email behind my back and when they finally wanted to meet and it was very nasty. You see bio mom died of a stroke,from alcohol and pain medicine. Before she became really ill she took a job in ca and ended up very sick in Ohio. When they went to get her the kids fought about who was going to care for her etc. so she died in a home over New years that year. I must also mention I am a recovering alcoholic with 20years of sobriety. SD who called me a drug addict has compared me with her mother for years. Your were more physiologically addicted mom was physically addicted. I would just say hum and move on. This same girl would also refer to my mother as a drunk whenever I would say my mother did this or that. ( My mom died in 1980 of cancer) yes my mother and dad drank but my mother was refined and not a drunk. I never said a word when sd would say this. Well she kept tell DH she knew I was a drug addict because she saw her mother. And she kept repeating it in these emails I was reading. So when all SK came to our house to intervene, SD said ,"can I use your bathroom? Is it clean? I have a friend who helps with the house and I am very neat. This SD gal however is a complete slob. I started to get my hair up. It went down hill from there and after 29 years for the first time ever I dump my bucket. I told them all what I thought of them and told them I was stronger than their mother and to get out of the house. Since then they have convince my dh to divorce me three times and to leave me once. He has come back every-time. SD has call me a stupid f'ing slut and many other names and finally after 3 hair drug test all negative, I was admitted to the hospital for possible heart attack and it was nothing but complete stress. When SD found out she broke into our home and stole my receipts and medical docs and told my husband I went to the hospital to get drugs. They have alienated all the Grand kids from me and I have been around since all 7 were born. Here is my question.I feel they are plotting something to get control of my husband in his old age and will accuse me of hurting him. Of course there would be no proof because I would never but how do I protect myself from these folks. I am scared and seeing a therapist. My true friends call me the nicest person they know for what that is worth.Thank you for listening. If you can help me understand not to be afraid I would be so grateful.