Hello, I know this site is used for SP to discuss and help out but I need help. I'm 19 and my mom is with her high boyfriend. I was 15 when they got together again. My father is an acholoic and my mother stayed with him for 23 years she finally gave the fight and met back up with the man I call my SD, again in 2009. When they first got together I didn't care for him to much, because he also drank. I was 15 living all my self for a summer no one but me and my moms Pomeranian she was always with him. Then after only two times of meeting him we moved in with him. Everything was all fine and dandy until the day I met his daughter. At first she did seem like a really cool person to hang out with. Me myself I have a brother and a sister but my sister is from my dads first marriage so she only came around at times. She wants more to do with my brother anyway. So I saw an opportunity to possibly have a big sister figure, when I first saw her she was pregnant she lost that baby then soon enough pregnant again. Her BM died during her pregnancy, her boyfriend kicked out and she came to stay with my mom and her dad. I being 16 at the time thought it was cool, until she started making comments someone was outside to kill her. As time went on she went back to her boyfriend these 'fights' became more and more every time they would let her come stay. When I first met her I immediately found out she was a huge liar. When her daughter was born she then 'left' her boyfriend and used her mothers death as an excuse not to do anything. Everyone I've talked to has said she treated her BM like dirt. It wasn't long before it got worse still 16 I raised her daughter fell outta school, and eventually quit. When I turned 18 she got pregnant again by the same guy in and out of his life back and forth from place to place she began to use her daughter as a tool to get things. Things such as if you don't take me there you can't see her ever again and I have a kid so you need to do this for me. After she had her son it only got worse. There came a time she abanded him for two months leaving my mom and her dad to take care of him. Her and her boyfriend split the kids the girl is his because he doesn't believe the boy is his. Lately the using the kids has gotten worse. So much as if she doesn't get a cigarette off her dad he isn't allowed to see the kids. Recently she has showed her true colors about my mom calling her valguer things. It's not the fact she just dislikes my mom she does it with everyone. After everyone fights with her and she sucks up everything is fine again everyone like worships her. Its now to the point me and my brother both agreed that since this isn't the first time she has dogged my mom out, and my mom doesn't stick to her guns about it me and my older brother are about ready to walk away from all this. Leave my mom behind we never would want my mom to choose over me and him vs our SD we just want her to choose between being treated like your nothing vs standing your ground. My mom is so focused in her drama that she doesn't notice me and my brother. I understand we are adults but it's been like this since I was 16. I just Idk what to do anymore. This isn't the life I planned for myself. I'm 19 and I'm the most mature, open minded, positive, adult here. I NEED HELP PLEASE! WHAT DO I DO? DO I LEAVE? every time I talk to my mom about it she tells me she's gonna walk away from everything including me and my brother. She gets loud... I just want her to see my point of view on it.. I have no one else to talk to. No one i repeat no one at all understands. I just want it to be over... So help! tell me should I leave never look back and start my life? my dreams? or should I stay here deal with this and be miserable where i'm so different and I don't fit in?? :O