Pet Name...."Baby"
This is driving me INSANE!! My DH calls his kids (17S, 14S, 9D) "baby" and he also calls me "baby"....I can not take it anymore!! Even when he texts the kids he calls them "baby or his babies" and refers himself and the ex as "mommy and daddy", as that is what the kids call them too...whatever to that...could give a rat's ass what they call their parents....Texting..."Daddy will be picking you up soon Baby...Are you hungry Baby?....Don't worry about it Baby, Daddy will buy you a new one.......UGH!!!!! i told him the other day of how I felt about it and that I never heard of a parent calling their children, especially almost grown children "baby" and that I feel it is a pet name for a significant other....and that it weirds me out...he needs to find another pet name for me or just call be by my given name...he comment was "it there anything else you have a problem with?...I stated it is not a problem just letting you know how if effects me....call me whatever you want...and it was left at that....just yesterday he yells out the window to the 17yr old, "Make sure you are home by 9 baby"....then I hear him say to himself..."ugh I said it"....I don't care what he calls his kids, I just do not want to be pinned with the same pet name..especially in the bedroom!! The BM also calls the kids "baby"...even in text......am I being immaature about this??
I have no kids...my dogs are
I have no kids...my dogs are my babies.
When FDH & I started our relationship, he called me "Baby Girl"...I thought it was sweet until I heard him call SD's (then 13, 11 & 5) the same thing. I hinted to him that I didn't like having the same pet name as his daughters & he gave me a creeped out glare (how dare I not want the same pet name as his little darlings!)
Well...rather than argue about it, I came up with a plan...I started calling both him & my dog by the same "pet" name. I had been calling my dog this for nine years & he had heard me call my "Babysu" over on a couple of occasions. Then I called HIM "Babysu" & he was like "WTF???" & I said "Well, I prefer separate pet names but if you can call me the same name as your kids, I can call you the same as mine" LMAO...I don't think he's used the term "Baby Girl" for ANY of us since then.
After bickering that dogs aren't kids, he finally got the point that no, dogs are not kids but I wanted a separate pet name than his then mini-wife tween/teen daughters & SD5.
I'm not suggesting that you do this...FDH & I are kinda funny in how we work things out (he needs real life examples or he just does not get it).
It does sound like your DH is trying. I am only just now breaking him of the "Daddy needs to go now" third person crap. It's ANNOYING as hell & I think it dumbs the Skids down. The resident ones are 9 & 10 for crying out loud! He slips up sometimes but he's doing MUCH better. He started working on it after I pointed out how STUPID the SKids BM sounded talking to her kids like they were imbeciles or something. He finally saw the big picture after looking at her communication with them as what it is...a dumb ass treating her kids like babies.
Thank you!!! Now I know it is
Thank you!!! Now I know it is not me! I have thought about calling my 17 & 24 sons, "Babe" when he is around....but I just can not find myself to do it even if it is to make a point. I always call my doggie "baby girl"..I have had her for 10 yrs and that is what she is to me...he looks at me weird when I do that...funny!! I wish he could here just how gross it sounds when he talks to them like that! I never go into his phone, but one day he kept texting..so I looked at this conversations with all three of them....GROSS!! Using Daddy in third party and "Baby this and baby that"...."love you baby".....UGH!!! And that is exactly how he treats them like "BABIES"....I cringe when the 17yr old son asks me "Where is Daddy?"....BARF!!!
You will get a lot of
You will get a lot of opinions on this board about that. My DH did that when we started dating. All it took was one pissed off comment, and he hasn't called SDs "babe" or "baby" since.
But - a man calling teenage BOYS "baby" is gross to me. I can't believe THEY don't say something. Freaking unreal.
Stepdoormat.....I love your
Stepdoormat.....I love your quote...I actually said that recently to my DH!
Do you have a pet name you
Do you have a pet name you call your child? In the middle of sex (with you OH ;)LOL) drop the kids pet name....
See if he likes it? Passion killer would be MY reaction.
My OH calls me a few things, but Honey we call each other a lot.
He calls SD "poss" (for possum) One day the three of us were in the kitchen and he says "Honey do you want some of this?" Before I could reply SD is at his side "oh what is it? Yes please!"
I got right up in between them and said "actually. I think "honey" is me not you..."
Luchay..Funny say that....A
Luchay..Funny say that....A while ago, I was sitting in the living room and my DH and his daughter were in the kitchen, and he says, "Baby are you hungry?"...before I could answer, his daughter yells "O I am starving"...that is when it hit me...this is not working out. If he wants to call his kids, male and female "baby" by all means, just do not call me the same thing...it is just down right a turn off!!
I quit calling DS "baby" when
I quit calling DS "baby" when he was like in preschool. I call him "buddy".
I call SS12 "lil dude". When DH and I first started dating we took a nickname quiz just for laughs and we use those for our nicknames.
Yeah, we went through the
Yeah, we went through the same thing. DH would call SD and me "Love" so I asked him to please use one pet name for me and one for her. Well, then he went to his 2nd favorite for her: Babygirl. ICK EWWWWWW.
I had told him that it seemed to me like "babygirl" is more of a boyfriend/girlfriend kind of term of endearment. He didn't agree and continued calling her that until we were watching a movie together and this happened: Magic Mike was the movie and in the movie, he has a chick that's basically his booty call. He calls her cell and says "Hey babygirl" in this sexy voice. DH looked at me and I looked at him and sorta smirked and he said, "Ok, ok, point taken".
Now he just calls her by her nickname, a shortened version of her first name. I'm still "love"