what happens in our house should stay in our house
having some issues, BM is threatening to "tell the judge on me" LOL last weekend i made her son (my 6 yr old ss) help me clean the bathrooms. he refused to listen to me and clean his room so that was his punishment. he used a rag to clean out the sink bowls and clean the TOP of the toilet seat. i sprayed the cleaner on everything he didnt touch that and he didnt clean the inside of the toilet bowls i did. To me i didnt do anything wrong by doing this but shes acting as if im being "an evil stepmother". ive never treated him like a "stepson" when hes with us, i take on just as much responsibilty for the boy as my hubby does. I know shes an evil B of a person but im second geussing myself now and wondering if i was wrong?? somebody help me out here please!!
Let her tell the judge. It's
Let her tell the judge. It's laugable. He was naughty, so he had to help with chores. Really?! Don't sweat it.
thanks thats what i thought,
thanks thats what i thought, but i was still second geussing myself!
Yeah, BM here is livid
Yeah, BM here is livid because we make the skids make their beds, keep their things picked up, help with their laundry and help with dinner cleanup. We're treating them "like slaves!" OK, BM. Take it to court. Go ahead. Oh, to be a fly on the wall when she gets ripped a new one!
I would ignore her. If she
I would ignore her. If she has issues, she can take you to court.
Our BM recently tried to fight with DH over the day care we enroll the skids in for the summer. She tried to go on and on about how it's not a safe place for her kids and she doesn't think they meet state guidelines, etc.
DH forwarded her the email from LAST summer where she DEMANDED that DH enroll the skids in this same day care. That was his only response to her crazy.
I don't ask anything of the
I don't ask anything of the skids personally, for that exact reason. I also do not set foot in their room. If they want their clothing washed, they are to bring it down - I basically don't enter their rooms. My bios who are the same age have chores, which I enforce and they earn an allowance for their chores. All the kids are here about the same amount of time, my bios are here a bit more, but the skids are 50-50.
When I command my bios to do their chores, DH will sometimes repeat the same for the skids, SS never does anything, SD is about 70% chance she will do the chore since the BDs are doing their anyway, I guess the peer pressure gets her because it certainly has nothing to do with listening to her father. If the skids do their chores as asked by DH, they also earn points to their allowance, but its rare.
I gave up on that a long time ago.
btw - I think there is NOTHING wrong with what you did. However, since I am now disengaged, its not worth my time\effort or fall out to ask anything of the skids period.
I love it when idiots think
I love it when idiots think they are so right and have no reservations about telling a judge how it should be.
Maybe you can plan a few more chores or incidents to report when she is standing in front of the judge. Make sure it continues to be something innocent that she can blow out of proportion. A few times of running her mouth in front of the judge will keep her fresh in the judges mind for the idiot she is.
i wish to high heaven that
i wish to high heaven that the judges in our county would see what a crazy lunatic that she really is. shes complained and filed and complained and filed so much the last 6 years. I dont unnderstand why the court system keeps just shrugging there shoulders and letting her continue to harass us the way that she does. in almost all incidences my husband is the one that gets the repurcussions because the courts believe every bit of BS that comes out of her ugly face. she moves counties on us without notice and my husband loses out on more time wiht his son, she refuses to get a real job or doesnt claim her tips so my husband is ordered to pay more cs, she takes the boy off of medicaid (to hurt us) and my husband is probably going to have to put him on his insurance to now, she says ugly horrible things infront of her son so therefore they are court ordered to go to parenting classes (another $200), she loses her temper in the court room and throws chairs but they just warn her and tell her to sit down!!! WTF my husband wouldve been in jail if he did that
I like this idea of giving BM
I like this idea of giving BM something to complain about. BM complains about EVERYTHING to DH and threatens to tell the judge. DH and I are going to have to come up with something for BM to take to the judge.
Another reason I love
Another reason I love disengaging. Since we SD and I don't interact much, there isn't anything to tell