It's "unreasonable" for BM to discuss skid Dr appointments beforehand?
BM's exact words:
"I believe it is unreasonable to discuss the date and times prior to the medical appointments being made due to the times and dates being subject to my schedule and being able to take the girls"
If you're scheduling an appointment, don't you normally do that around your schedule so you know you can make it? And if you're scheduling an appointment, why is it unreasonable to forward that info along to the kid's father .. since you're required to anyway per your CO?
And that's not even considering the fact that BM isn't even the one taking the skid to the doctor appoinment .. her mother is. BM doesn't know that DH found that out during his last conversation with the doctor.
Luckily, I think the skids should be done with doctors for a little while now.
My grandmother had to take me
My grandmother had to take me to the doctors a few times. It was quite fun
I agree with you, it's not unreasonable for BM to discuss Doctors appointments with DH beforehand.
DH doesn't care at all that
DH doesn't care at all that grandma is taking her to the doctor .. but why lie/hide it as an excuse to not provide the appointment info? :?
Every stupid little question is such a huge freaking deal with BM .. doesn't even matter to her to that they have a custody agreement stipulating all of this crap. I'm not lying when I say it took 3 separate requests to get the PHONE NUMBER to the allergist's office (which was actually the general information line for the hospital). It wasn't until DH contacted the first doctor and asked him to track down the info that he got any useful information.
Wow your Skids BM does that
Wow your Skids BM does that too! Not sure what is up with that. We had to locate my SD's doctor with only a first name to go by and the type of program SD was in. We successfully located and met her. The doctor had no idea that her dad was involved, any of the treatment she had when SD was with us, or a contact number. We gave the doctor all of the information that we had and we always had SD's BM listed as a contact when SD received treatment with us.
I think it is an ego thing, BM raising the kids all by herself type of thing.
It is beyond ridiculous to
It is beyond ridiculous to me. It's BM being difficult for the sake of being difficult .. because she can. :O
Control freak doesn't even touch this woman!
I think that you and your DH
I think that you and your DH have every right to be informed of any dr's apt - even if it wasn't stated in the CO! If BM won't pass that info along, call the dr's office and ask to be notified of future visits. SD's dr's office calls DH, BM, and me to remind us of apts - without being asked. That's their policy when dealing with blended families.
Your right! And it is on the
Your right! And it is on the CO. We just do it ourselves instead of taking legal action. Only problem we have on this note is locating doctors and numbers when she sees someone new for something. You would think it would be simple for the BM to add their dad as a contact...haha
DH does have regular contact
DH does have regular contact with the skids' doctors .. when he knows about them. The problems we've had lately are because of new specialists she's taking them to .. we don't know anything other than the hospital they work in.
DH has been able to track down the info eventually, but it's a process .. contacting one doctor after another and trying to get someone to tell you if there's an appointment scheduled when you don't have a date/time, etc.
It's a hassle. For the sake of being a hassle. Because she can.