I think this more a rant, but I just need to get it out. My 16 year old stepson on a deep male soul level just offends and disquest me. Maybe guys other there can relate but when you see certian people who are just so ugh, un mascualine it turns your stomach on a deep level. Here's some of the reasons why:

Pride and Dignity
In which my step son has none. He takes no pride in anything. From his looks, to his school work, to his chores he takes no pride in nothing.

Physically he is 16 years old 6ft 360+ pounds and has a wears a size 50 pants. If you know anything about clothes for large people everything is elastic so that size 50 pants maxed out at the waste is really like a size 52. And even those are pants are tight on him. He has wicked acne which is acclerated by his endless eating of crap. The only time he doesn't have anything in his hole is when he's asleep. In fact he obsessive about food, and if he oversleeps a meal he goes into an out right panic. His acne is out of control and my wife spends endless dollars on face creams from the dermatologist prescribes him which he can't be bothered to use. Also his level of physical capability just turns my stomach. We took a trip to DC and I had to park about less then a mile away from where we were going. I dropped everyone off. To me a mile is nothing. But he had to stop no less than 4 times on the way back to the car and all the while he was angry and lashing out at everyone because he had to walk 'all that way'. He can't even walk a mile without stopping how sad and how disqusting.

The dude doesn't really shower at all. He's constanly taking craps because he is a nonstop eating machine and he doesn't really know how to wipe well. Everytime I go in the bathroom the toilet is clogged because he uses excessive amounts of toilet paper. It's just plain sickening. He smells all the time the combitation of fat people fun and ranic as*. Worse is when he has his two loser friends over to play thier fairy card games, I can't even go near the kitchen where they play. Three 300+ pounds loser that don't shower, the smell of the room makes me vomit.

Plus him being a fat slob. The kid has bigger boobs than my wife I've never seen anything like it before in my life. I just threw up in my mouth.

School work, well what can you say he's a D student. Really I think the only reason why he passes is just pure social promotion anyway. His talent is in enlish but he's too lazy to do anything. Blows off projects, homework, constantly fails tests and quizzes. He really sucks at math. Any task requiring more than one step totally confounds him. Asking him to do a two step task would seem like you are asking him to build the pyramids. He sucks at school but could certianly to better if he gave half an effort. My wife sheilds him with a 504 program, which really just keeps him paralized in fear (he doesn't have to give oral presentations) and keeps him lazy.

Chores. Anything here he just gives a half ass effort. If he empties to dishes he refuses to empty silverware because its too confusing for him to sperate knifs, spoons and forks because he is a total dumb sh*t. Vaccum too dumb to use it and too lazy to pick up larger items and put them away or in the trash. Cat boxes he only does anything that visiable, nothing burried or caked on. Half of me thinks he lacks the physcial strengh in his arms to remove anything that really caked on. And no he's not retarted he's just so lazy that anything that requires more than a seconds worth of though is tortue to him. He's a total surface thinker.

Risks
This kid does not task the slightest risk at all. He is so paralyzed by his own fears its disquesting. And the worst part is he doesn't even reconize it as a problem at all. He always tries to play it safe with everything. Won't rock the boat with people his not comfortable with. He's too afraid to talk to people, won't do anything without fear of 'looking stupid', actually if you ask me it's pretty narcistic to think that many people actually care about what you are doing.

Coping Stratigies
He only really has a few coping stratigies. Any adveristy he faces he deals with by either avoidance, lying or passive agressive beahvior. This is pretty much the hallmark of the coward. If he gets in trouble he'll try to avoid the situation, or tell my wife a lie which she usually buys because she wants proof byond a reasonable doubt that he actually did something before trying a half as* punishment. Or he'll do some passive agressive BS. He is a total snitch, where he tries to tell my wife all the sh*t I do when he misintrepts anything. I'll never confide anything in this weasle he'll sell you out in a minute. Just can't respect a person like that.

Toughness

Mentally, phyiscally there is non. Any semi challenging mental task and he folds. Physically he may as well be physically. He has no mental toughness, and in order to lose weight you need mental toughness to push you past your limits. Physcially he can't even walk a mile and lifting 30 pounds causes him to have musle soreness. He can't even to a single pushup which is really sad.

Life

His life pretty much consits of nonstop eating and playing video games. The only thing that really produces dopamine in his brain is video games which is why he is so addicted to them. He has no passion, no drive just a directionless existance and the way the wind blows drives his life. I think that if he had exposure to real drugs or alchol he'd become an addict in a heart beat.

He is just a narcisstic entitlement prince who believe video games are his right. Any time he's punshed and they are taken away he lashes out at my wife in the most disrepectful and angry way. Sometime I think he might go all Sandy Hook if he gets his games taken away. He's like a crack addict with those things. But I know one good punch to the gut will take his a** down. The slob always expects money from my wife every week to buy the new latest and greatest game. And my wife caves because 'thats the only thing he really has'. Yeah well he could get off his fat butt and start exercising.

And yes the sad existance of eating and playing video games with no passion just makes him on depressed slob. Always boo hoo poor me I'm a victim things 'happen' to me. I never make things happen things just happen to me. He's doped up on antidepressents like that will help any. The only thing that will help is if he moves his a** and starts getting some dopamine, gaba and other chemicals flowing. Plus all the fat he carries is killing his testorone and releasing way too much estrogen.

All in all as a man, you can see how it's hard to respect someone like this. A passive agressive liar, who is lazy and has no ambiton and goals. A worthless, passionless soul who is too afraid of his own shadow to take any kind of risk.