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Submitted by beloved12 on Thu, 01/03/2013 - 6:43pm

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Parenting Issues

I am 23 years old I live with my fiance , our one year old daughter, and his two children 7 and 8 year old....I'm also 30 weeks pregnant. I know some of you will judge me but I just need to vent and have no one to talk to. I have had it with my fiances kids everytime they walk into a room I'm in I cringe with frustration they don't listen to me, they ignore me, they are dirty, they wet the bed every night, they don't know how to play all they want to do is watch TV, every meal ends up on the floor and I literally mean ever meal. I could go on forever about these kids but I think the main reason I'm so stressed with them is bc I'm the only one trying to teach them right from wrong my fiance works alot and their mom is a loser shows up around holidays to act like a good mom but I'm the one stuck with them all the time....I'm so sick of them being rude to me and me having to pick up after them all the time I just feel like I got thrown into a permanent babysitting job that I hate and can't quit. I love my fiance so much and could never leave him I just need help dealing with these kids idk what to do anymore

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Submitted by beloved12 on Thu, 01/03/2013 - 8:39pm

The thing is...he does care and he sees iv become so sour around them I can't even help but give them attitude when they talk to me and I hate when they call me mom or even try to hug me....I feel a part of it is my fault but I can't hero it iv tried so much to let things go but I'm over it now and ya their BM will take them here n there when its convenient for her granted she's 30 years old living with her mother and has no car or steady job so her excuse all the time is my mom doesn't want me to have then today like what the hell get a life they are your kids....my fiance doesn't understand that I can't deal with then everyday I try to explain in a nice way n he says he gets it but stuff doesn't change I still have too deal with them everyday I would love it if they moved in with their mom bc I'm sick of them. my biggest thing with my fiance right Niue is that he won't take her to court for cooks support bc she gives him 30 dollars every week IF she has it....he has full custody but no child support makes no sense to me I hate her and I hate that she made me have to pick up her slack ugh I'm rambling bc I don't know where to even begin or end with this....its just so frustrating I don't want them in my life anymore and I know that terrible to say about innocent kids but its how I feel

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Submitted by betterdaysahead12 on Wed, 06/12/2013 - 7:00am

I feel your pain. I too hate being around my skids. They are TWINS... Boys... 7 years old. They also leave food EVERYWHERE. Scream when you try to correct them. Stomp all over the house. RUN up and down the stairs. I mean I have never met kids who do not know how to WALK. They are always running to the bathroom, bedroom, kitchen, play room. They never walk, so it's so loud in our house. When I ask them to put their snack wrappers in the trash, they all of a sudden don't hear. They just leave the trash on the floor and walk all over it. They turn the TV up so loud that it disturbs my infant from napping. They are so dirty and have absolutely no respect for adult direction at all. My DH puts them in time out, and they scream off to their room. He needs to do more. So does your fiance. I am always left at the house to deal with them when he is at the gym or runs off to the store. I also pick them up from school and have to deal with them until DH gets home from work. Mind you, I am a full time working mother myself. It's just annoying. I wish that they would live with their mother too, at least half the time like they did when I first met him. She is a loser and all this child raising falls on me and I'm sick of it too. I have spoken to my hubby numerous times and things change for awhile then they revert back. I even disengage, then DH gets mad saying that I'm ignoring his children. I dont care anymore. They ignore me when I tell them to put their garbage in the trash, why should I care what they have to say to me when they need something? I dont mind cooking for them because I have to eat too. But all the other stuff I am fed up with. If I'm raising his kids then they need to respect me and listen to me. People dont understand when you are raising kids that are not yours, it's hard. THey dont want to listen to you most of the time and their parent which you have married thinks they are so perfect. I would leave if the child we had together wasn't so young (9months). I'm capable of taking care of me and my child on my own. However, I dont leave yet because I can't stomach the thought of my baby in the house with those 2 a$$holes without me. I know that my DH would want the baby at least half of the time, so if I'm not there I would be sick wondering what my baby is going through with those idiot kids....