Advice please from SM's who are also BM's.....who pays for school trips?
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Just need some advice please.....if CS is paid as stipulated by the CSA and ss is 50% with us and 50% with BM exactly.....who pays for school trips on their days? Eg ss with us Weds eve but needs to go on a school trip on Thurs and Thurs he is always with BM?
My understanding is that here
My understanding is that here in the UK CSA gets paid to the resident parent,even in a 50/50 case its the parent who claims child benefit......in our case BM (God alone knows why?!) but am not entirely sure how it works with regards to extra curricular activities. DH pays for all of ss extracurricular activities anyway but was just wondering if anyone could clarify school trips.
I totally agree with you
I totally agree with you Skygoddess however as in my situation we have the lethal combination of disney daddy & golden uterus on our hands this is unfortunately not the case!
How much are we talking here?
How much are we talking here? My skid field trip are never more than ten, and usually its less than that. I just pay it (full time custodial) and don't even worry about it... Not going to sqwack about being paid back 3.50 so the skid can go on a field trip.
It is more than £3.50, also
It is more than £3.50, also just to give you a little background......I work a 52 hour week (commuitng included here) as opposed to BM who does 16 hours as she had a child 10 years ago so yes may seem petty to some but when you are forced to work yourself to the bone so someone else may have a cushy life then yes one does get nit picking.
I am always curious how other
I am always curious how other families do it. We have no CS, so DH just pays if it is something that is on our time. SS went to a very expensive camp this summer and we just paid since it was on our time. My thought is if you want him to go, you pay for it....
Actually I think you have hit
Actually I think you have hit the nail on the head...."if you want him to go pay for it".....no I don't particularly want him to go at my expense. DH wants him to go because he has major guilty disney daddy syndrome and BM wants him to go as long as its not at her expense.
Yes I think you right, BM
Yes I think you right, BM doesn't want him to go that badly, DH should pay for it and I think I will go part time as I don't see why I should have to fund a situation not of my making.
I have never really thought
I have never really thought about this. I have 50/50 of my bios, and DH 50/50 of SS. BM doesn't have a penny to her name, so we pay for anything and everything like that. For my girls, which ever parent has them when the money is due, pays it. It has never been an issue or a question. It all pretty much evens out in the end.
I guess thats probably why
I guess thats probably why its different because you have your bios 50/50 you see I have no bios so I guess when I look at the situation I get slightly annoyed....I work longer hours than both DH & BM yet the outgoing expenditures of the household when it comes to ss are not open for discussion with me. Maybe if I had my own bios or just did a 16 hour week like BM it wouldn't really be an issue then.