Let it go. BM is being stupid and just trying to cause problems. Act like it doesn't bother you. She is probably jealous that you had a child with DH.

Don't sweat it, your SD7 is a kid, she repeated bits and pieces of what her BM could have said. You know that has nothing to do with 'how' you gave birth. BM is an adult, so she also knows that its nonsense. She may have just spilled some bitterness that she felt in her heart. Don't let bitterness of others affect you so deeply. Whenever my SD4 comes from BM with some wild and ridiculous ideas, i just rationally explain her the truth, which is exactly what you did. I would advise, let it go, we can't control what other people choose to say, but we can control what WE teach our children.

You should say something to DH and let him deal with her crazy comments. You may not have had trouble before because you weren't 'real' competition. But now that you have a child by her ex that's sibling to her child, there may be some issues. If SD comes home talking about the baby and so on, she could out of jealousy and insecurity, retaliate by saying hateful, ignorant thing like that. If DH does not take it up with her, leave it alone this time. You've answer the SD well. If you hear anything further then it's time for DH to stand up for you and if he doesn't, you can do it for yourself by talking to her woman to woman.

WTF? That's ridiculous. But, I'd take the high road and ignore it. Or let DH handle her!

Just curious how on earth she knows what type of delivery you had?

What a moronic thing to say.

I agree though, I'm sure she's just jealous you had a baby with her ex and she just *had* to come up with something to say about it.

Either that or she's just a judgmental freak who thinks that the way she chooses to do things is the only right way to do it. She may have justified to herself that she didn't want pain meds during her labor/delivery, "because she loves her baby too much to take drugs," but that doesn't make it a right or just decision. All it is, is HER decision and HER justification.

Brush her off. It's her issue.

You know the love that you have for your child, what anyone else thinks is unimportant.

(((HUG)))

You ladies are far nicer than me.

I think my response would have been:

"Oh sweetie not at all! See having a baby is painful and makes mommies yell, scream and say dirty words. And I loved my baby soooo much I didn't want her hearing yelling when she was first born. And guess what? The very first words/sounds my baby heard was her mommy telling her how much she loved her."

Nothing negative said about BM... and child set straight.

That is just crazy talk.... And the BM probably is just jealous that you had a baby.congrats on new baby!

Listen here chicken. BM is jealous. That's all, jealous.

This stupid notion of not bonding with your child because you didn't have a "natural" birth is just that stupid. My daughter firs brought this to my attention 4 1/2 years ago when she was having her first Caser. I almost died, she seriously thought that not having a natural birth would mean you would not love your child.

Now firstly the word NATURAL, that in itself is not a good word to be using in regards to births, they are vaginal or ceaser. Pure and simple. The idea of mum's who have a vaginal birth looking their noses at mum's who don't, well what can I say. That's mums for you. They will keep this up, their's will walk first, and fastest, talk first, eat solids first and so on and so on. It is some sort of competition. Don't get sucked into it. Most of them lie anyway. Just enjoy your baby.

My daughter went on two have two ceasesr's and one vaginal.........she adores all three of her kids and would throw herself under a speeding train for ALL of them. Now, she says there is no difference, when I tried to tell her that 4 1/2 years ago, I was just not understanding her. Yeah right.

Enjoy your baby, and forget BM and other's like her. BM is jealous and trying to ruin this for you, and YOU my friend are letting her. She's an idiot.

Just a side note, when my daughter was having her first, and saying that she wouldn't be able to bond with it because it was not a vaginal birth. There was an item in the news some woman had given birth in a toilet and left the baby to die there. Now, that was a vaginal birth for sure, didn't seem to make her bond with her baby did it. How many times does this happen, or something similar. Bonding and loving your child have nothing, NOTHING to do with how they were delivered. Trust me, the stork could deliver them and if you are going to love it you are going to love it.

You had an epidural for goodness sake, you and half the female population, you didn't hand it over to someone else to deliver for you. Ignore her. Again, she's an idiot and she has no business telling SD about this anyway. Why would she even know this, who told her. Next time, no one tells her anything right, it is NONE of her business.

having a child isn't a gladiator contest. you are there to have a baby, not prove how tough you are. sounds like bm is jealous. i didn't have an epidural (the idea of being more or less paralyzed from the waist down is scary to me) but i did have something thru my IV. anyone who says that means i don't love my kids can kiss my ass. i don't have to do things anyone else's way, and neither do you.