Married for two years, together four. Disengaged from OSD 23/YSD 21 for two years now.

The first year (after kicking out YSD), DH went from a blubbering grieving dad, begging me to let her back in (yes, even after she assaulted me and I got a black eye), to deep rooted resentment towards me (which nearly broke up our marriage after the first year). He would call his daughters and leave messages every few weeks begging to get together for a bit or short visit. He would plan out sending b-day cards and Christmas gifts days in advance to make sure they got them in time, then to follow up with a text to make sure they got them because they were rude enough not to even say "thank you".

Going into two + years together, I'm starting to see a change in him. He's loosing his eagerness and groveling kiss-my-daughters-ass daddy syndrome. He completely forgot that the YSD's b-day is next week, and forgot to get the card (as per ususal---days--weeks in advance). When I asked him to call and leave her a message to try and get a bit for her b-day and so he could give her, her card, he was very reluctant ---he wanted to just send a text --- as if he knew what the response would be.

So, is that it, the lack of response from SK's that start to burn them out, and is there a pattern (years into it) where "chasing" slows down to nearly a halt, and they actually DO get on with their lives and with YOU????