Oh how I love how BM sends skids over when they're sick!!!!
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FML! BM hasn't worked a day in her life so she wouldn't know what it's like to have to go to a JOB sick!!! We picked up SS12 and SS10 and did BM mention one thing about them being sick?!?! Not a word! My DH JUST got laid off yesterday so now I'm the only one with a job and he brings over his boys that are SICK! Thank you :sick:
These b!tch BMs do not care.
These b!tch BMs do not care.
Why wouldn't DH exercise his
Why wouldn't DH exercise his parenting time when his kids are sick? And how is this BM's fault??
I get that it sucks to get sick and have to go to work, but your DH doesn't just magically stop being a father because his kids get sick...
^^^^^THIS IS SO BANG ON
^^^^^THIS IS SO BANG ON TRUE^^^^^^
Why do divorced parents think they don't have to be "parents" when their children are sick. Kids get sick at least 6 times a year!!
How many times have we had to keep SD11 during BM's parenting time because SD11 was sick. Too many times to count. At least SD11 gets actual care at our house because her POS mother is a narcisistic See You Next Tuesday!
Oh..and better yet..when BM is sick, she can't care for her child.
You know what makes ME SICK, is people who don't want to parent their children because the child is sick, or they are sick, or they have new babies in the house. Kids get sick.
If you have a new baby, do you think that your new baby will NEVER BE SUBJECTED TO SICK PEOPLE AROUND HIM?? If you had two biological children, would you send your older, sick child to live with Grandma so that they are not around the baby? NO. Why would the rule be different if the older child is a step child??
My son had just gotten out of
My son had just gotten out of the hospital with the flu. He wasn't even old enough to get his shots yet. I don't see, AT ALL, why it is so horrible to ask for a WARNING that a child is sick. And for your information, I sent MY son to MY grandma's so he would not get sick. I would do the same thing if they were my bios. People that judge others without knowing the whole story is what makes me SICK.
Exactly!!!
Exactly!!!
Amen, especially when it is a
Amen, especially when it is a BM on the website trying to be negative about the step parents thoughts and feelings.
I don't recall saying that my
I don't recall saying that my DH wanted to "stop being a parent" because his kids were sick! It just pisses me off to no end that BM can't even have the courtesy to inform us that they are sick. I'm here to vent just like the rest of you. Me venting about my SS's coming over when they are sick is way less of an issue than some of the things that I've read on this blog... pure hatred!
"now I'm the only one with a
"now I'm the only one with a job and he brings over his boys that are SICK!"
Implies to me that you didn't want him to "bring over his boys that are SICK".
Not just that you wanted to be informed. Had you been informed, would that have made you less angry? Would being informed have changed anything? You were informed when they were dropped off.
I apologize for my rant...It was more directed to my SD11's POS BM, because she does this all the time....she won't care for her daugher if her daughter is sick...or if she is sick.
My point was that life happens. Kids get sick. Parents have to care for their sick children.
Some people on here don't
Some people on here don't want their skids over whether they are sick or not! I must be horrible to imply that I don't want to get sick as I am now the only one working!!!! My DH JUST got laid off. Now is not the time to be missing work. That's all! And yes, it would have been nice to be informed. And no, I was not informed about them being sick. I could tell when they kept coughing! DH called BM and she said "oh yeah, SS12 just got sick today and SS10 has been sick for over a week, and now I'm sick"!!! I agree.... parentS have to care for their sick children... Unfortunately, my DH is the only one that seems to give a rats ass.
What would you have done
What would you have done differently if Bm had "warned" you?
Probably left home! I love
Probably left home! I love having to do that! Or asked for the skids to come over when they're not contagious. It's not like 3 days is going to make them forget who their dad is.
IMHO it's just the
IMHO it's just the consideration of it. You know? Not that I would of done anything different, but it would of been nice to be able to be prepared. Have orange juice, noodle soup, Tylenol, and a babysitter already planned out for any babies in the house. That's just my opinion.
I agree a heads up is the
I agree a heads up is the proper thing to do. That way you can take some precautions with disinfecting things, wiping germs away and washing hands a LOT more than you normally would. It doesn't mean not to parent, but be prudent with germs. Sheesh, some people just jump to the worst conclusions.
I agree!!! I've been
I agree!!! I've been disinfecting door knobs and anything they touch like crazy! It's not like we've never had them over when they're sick, it's just with my income currently being the only one (as we did not see this lay off coming) money is going to be tight over the next month. We really can't afford for me to miss any work right now!! BM wouldn't understand that as she has multiple kids from multiple men for the pay cheque. It seems that everytime they are over when one of them is sick that I'm the one that ends up getting sick after they've gone home. It's probably because I'm the one that spends the most time with them when they are over. It's funny how that works sometimes :?
First of all, DH IS being a
First of all, DH IS being a parent. They are here now! Sick as hell. How is this BM's fault? Because she never takes the kids to the doctors. She just drops them off with no word about it. DH (being the horrible parent that he is) took them to the dr's and one of them has bronchitis. Um... I believe that if this was addressed by BM earlier, that it wouldn't have gotten this bad.
StickAFork, I think today,
StickAFork, I think today, you are the only sane person on this board.
Wow, will wonders never
Wow, will wonders never cease.
You're like a life raft in a
You're like a life raft in a sea of crazy.
You're very hypocritical.
You're very hypocritical. I've read your blogs and posts... so you're not just here to vent too? I guess everything that you rant about is legit and everything that anyone else has to say is nonsense.
BM sent SD4 over without even
BM sent SD4 over without even warning us that she had strep. The part that pissed me off was that she knew damn well our new born son was here. Her sister dropped SDs off and asked "SD4 has strep, you don't have your baby right?" Are you fucking kidding me? OUR son LIVES here. Idiot.
Yikes. Was she on meds? I'd
Yikes. Was she on meds? I'd assume since she knew she had strep, then she was on antibiotics.
Yes she was on antibiotics.
Yes she was on antibiotics. The date on them was of the day before. She hadn't even been on them 24 hours, leaving her still contagious. I had my grandmother watch my son for the night as it wouldn't of been fair, to anyone, to deprive her of her father's time just because she was sick. It would of been nice for BM to at least have the consideration to warn us, at least.
Gotcha!
Gotcha!
I wouldn't dream of not
I wouldn't dream of not having SS just because he is sick. I have never had that mind set. Our home IS his home. If he doesn't feel well, he goes to his room and lays down.
I guess maybe if BM was custodial and had more parenting time, or if he didn't have his own room... I dunno, never thought about it. I suppose a warning would be nice. I always give a heads up to the other parent when the kids aren't feeling well.
Seriously. A little head's up
Seriously. A little head's up is common courtesy. Ginger Ale and Tylenol isn't going to go buy itself.
LOL!!!! Love this!!! Lucky
LOL!!!! Love this!!! Lucky for us we are fully stocked on children's medications. This isn't a first time and it definitely won't be the last
I guess it just bothered me more this time because of our current financial situation.
Ohhhh, listen to this...4
Ohhhh, listen to this...4 days before I was scheduled to be induced w/my 2nd son (he was 2 weeks past due)...BM sends Skids over sick. I ended up with the WORST sore throat I'd ever had (worse than strep or mono, I've had both), and felt COMPLETELY miserable and had to go GIVE BIRTH. These b*tches don't care.