So DH & BM share joint custody of ss6 & sd5. Saturday night through Wednesday they're with us, due to DH being off work those days. BM broke-up (again) with her jealous bf because he thinks my DH has been going over to see the kids at night on the days BM has them. I think DH & BM have talk too much through texts & phone calls but I don't believe he's going over there without me knowing. BM's ex bf is apparently super crazy because one morning he thought she was cheating on him because the door was locked so he kicked in her apartment door. DH & I heard about it the next day from ss6 Not something a 6 year should have to go through.
BM broke-up with bf over that, rightfully so, but then took him back. Last night I guess her and ex bf were fighting so he took my phone number out of her phone & was texting me about how we should meet-up to talk & become best friends to make DH & BM jealous. That's creepy enough but he keeps telling me how when DH was telling BM about our fights she was telling everyone about them. Makes me feel like a winner!!! DH has since stopped doing that but damage is still done.
Anyways the point of this post is to ask advice. BM asked DH to change her locks which he agreed to do with me there. I'm all for it, DH is very worried about his kids being there. Well today BM tells DH that ex-bf went to her place at 10 pm last night (with her having the kids) demanding he talk to her or he wouldn't leave. She considered calling the police but didn't. I'm urging DH to ask BM to have kids stay with us until she can get a restraining order on ex bf. I feel s mother myself that having kids around in that environment is not safe. I feel that if BM refuses she's either lying or is a shitty mom & that DH could file for temp custody of his kids. Anyone have any family law advice? DH doesn't want to hurt BM but kids still shouldn't put through that bs either.