Feeling guilty for disliking my SS9
My SS9 is not a bad kid. He's precocious--he is always trying to talk and act like an adult--which is infinitely charming when you first meet him. But, after months...no one can stand it! (my brother and relatives have quit coming around when he's here.)
Today, I took him to the park and he proceeded to inform me: he wouldn't drive the 5 miles, he would only walk (it is always healthier to walk, even if I'm pregnant and it's 90 degrees), it was too windy to play football, he doesn't like the juice i brought him, I'm not kicking the soccer ball correctly ("you, know soccer is really hard. you'll get it one day"), I should carry all the stuff since I'm the adult, we shouldn't let the dog meet other dogs, he didn't want to play with the other kids there because he knew he could beat them at every sport.
I end up hating him by the end of the day--his arrogance and brattiness is really not pleasant. I've tried to change his behavior by telling him "please try to be more positive." But, it doesn't make a difference. DH thinks he's just being a kid. Which makes me feel intensely guilty about disliking a child with whom I'm supposed to be so close.
Am i just being oversensitive? What would you do?
>>>What would you do?<<< I'd
>>>What would you do?<<<
I'd take the pressure off myself to think I need to be close to this kid.
And then I'd quit taking him to the park. I'd quit taking him anywhere, actually. Jeez Louise that kid is annoying.
Yeah, i need to quit
Yeah, i need to quit pressuring myself to like him. The problem is: he has an abusive mother and DH and everyone else is looking to me to be the female role model. Nobody understands that you can't just will yourself into being some kid's mother.
Good point! I wish I could
Good point!
I wish I could be like an aunt to SS9. But, I have too many responsibilities for him--picking up from school, making meals, etc. And then he becomes so sick of me that we can't just be casual.
Very odd behavior. It doesn't
Very odd behavior. It doesn't sound like he talks like an adult...it sounds like he talks like an old man. I've taught highly intelligent gifted kids who act that way, as well as some asperger's kids that act that way. Either way, it's odd. How much time does he spend with his dad? If his dad thinks this behavior is okay, he's either an idiot or not spending enough time with him.
Yeah--he's a highly gifted
Yeah--he's a highly gifted child with no siblings and 2 parents that are both very involved ... I think he just lives in an adult world. And is totally spoiled. So, I understand why he wants to assert himself all the time by making his opinions known... But, I just wish he would be a kid sometimes.
It's like he competes with me
It's like he competes with me by pretending he's an adult, too. And, my husband thinks it's cute--he wants his brilliant son (actually, he IS extremely gifted) to feel free to think independently and have his own opinions. But, DH doesn't realize that smartey pants SS9 is using that latitude to find covert reasons why everything i do and say sucks. I don't know about you, but I would much rather have a kid that was average intelligence and respectful than genius and manipulative...