The wedding is over, but now there is another issue.

My DH's mother died over one year ago. He (because I refused)had to go through 60 years of her paperwork and photos, etc.... She saved tons of stuff - and she had gotten rid of a large amount before she died, but there was still alot left.

There are these photographs she had of my DH's kids and her and her husband. TONS of them. All the same pose, except the kids were older in each one. It's like they had a code that said "Assume the position" and everyone took their place in the SAME POSITIONS! It is very curious. I don't take photographs like that, but I guess many families do. I had to keep telling my DH's kids to "stop posing" whenever I wanted to take photos of them. Finally, I was able to get some informal, fun photos of them.

I have repeatedly asked my DH to either throw these photos out, give them to his kids as wedding presents, send them through the mail, etc.... but get rid of them. They take up space! We have a very small house, and we are trying to downsize every day.

One week ago, we sent his kids emails asking them if they want these photos. There may be some they don't have copies of. No response. My husband thinks it's because they don't check their emails anymore, because they use text as communication. We don't text - and they have gotten other emails we sent them in the past, so I see this as an excuse. I don't know why he is being so resistant to getting rid of these, he claims he doesn't want them.

I told my husband that he should try ONCE MORE and call them TONIGHT, and ask them if they want the photos. If they don't answer leave them a message and tell them we will dispose of the photos on FRIDAY unless they say they want them. If they do, we SEND THEM SATURDAY through the mail. I would just like to go ahead and send them NOW, for thos of you who remember, we have been "forbidden" to send them anything without prior permission. Otherwise they will refuse the package and it will be sent back to us. Actually, maybe we should send them anyway, and if they come back, we throw them out.

One reason I don't want to do this is because they can then claim "We destroyed precious family memories" and claim they never got the package. I wouldn't put it past them. They have claimed ignorance on other things (like important letters)we have sent them.

So, it will be interesting to see what happens. It seems like when one hurdle is overcome, there is always another in the way. Eventually, we will be free from a large portion of the "ties that bind" us to them, and we can move on! Oh happy day!