another cosleeping vent

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I just found out that my 5 yo nephew needs mom or dad to lay down with him in order to fall asleep at night. And sometimes they sleep in his bed the entire night. And more often than not, he finds his way into their bed in the middle of the night if one of them isn't sleeping in his bed.

I just don't get this. How do they have sex at night? How is this healthy for my nephew?

Draco, Please don't tell me

Draco,
Please don't tell me you think a couple has to be in their bed to have sex at night?? }:)

That wasn't my experience. Of course I am a hippie, with a very strong sex drive. I co-slept with my babies, and still managed to have lots of sex... there are other rooms in the house.

Personally, I need my space.

Personally, I need my space. I sleep with a man and a tiny dog. That is enough!!

I sleep with another tiny

I sleep with another tiny dog! Sorry couldn't resist

Did you see what you just

Did you see what you just posted! :jawdrop: You "could not have sex with that many animals"! Hey ladies, you keep to your species, I'll keep to mine LOL

A friend of mine (same one

A friend of mine (same one with the 20 year old she fully supports) co-sleeps with her son every single night. He is nearly 10. It disgusts me and she talks about him like he is a baby and how sweet it is that he loves his mommy so much he wants to sleep with her. OMG! In all honesty, this 9 year old boy reminds me of a 3 year old girl wihtout boundaries.

10 is certainly pushing this.

10 is certainly pushing this. The kid will never fully function in society as Mom will take care of him until his 50's or so then abandon him to the grave leaving him totally helpless.

I agree. She is clueless. The

I agree. She is clueless. The kid is seriously emotionally stunted because of all the babying she and her dh do for this kid. They treat him like a toddler and then they're surprised when he cries in public. They signed him up for baseball and he cried at tryouts and they were shocked. Well, duh! You've trained him to believe he should be catered to and to be protected. Idiots.

I actually had a friend that

I actually had a friend that her and her husband just moved their kid to the corner of their bed so they could do "it" I was so grossed out by that image.

I wanted my boys in bed with me the first night we brought them home. XH and I were both on the edges of the bed and didn't sleep a bit so scared we would hurt our babies.... never happened again!

I'd mind my own

I'd mind my own business.

Google: parents children share bed - parents children sleeping together and perhaps you'll find out how much of a problem this - if any.

Don't I remember that even today families often sleep in one room - sometimes the one room being the one room they call home?

Orange, you are right. In

Orange, you are right.

In Japan, it is still common for families to all sleep in one room... even wealthy families with large homes generally have a family sleeping room.

This is an issue for us. SS6

This is an issue for us. SS6 cosleeps with Mami (BM) and its been a battle to get the kid to sleep here alone at our house.

Because he is used to sleeping with his mom and she allows the TV on all night to 'comfort' him - he basically doesn't sleep here at all. He is here 50% of the time but is up all night.

Often he will get up and go to the playroom and sleep on the sofa so he can put the TV on.

I am not for or against co-sleeping per say - but I am against the bad habit formation it has had on SS6.

According to SD12, BM has now bought SS6 a brand new bed (he had one so I don't know what the problem is) so it appears she is now facing her created problem and is trying to get SS6 to sleep on his own. Either that or she has a man?!?!?!

Good luck BM - glad we laid the groundwork for you, as usual.

McCrazy still sleeps with SD8

McCrazy still sleeps with SD8 too. But it is for HER comfort and need, not SD's.

Love the McCrazy name! I

Love the McCrazy name! I call her skankwhore but may add a Mc to it cause McSkankwhore sounds nice

It was sparked by someone's

It was sparked by someone's Rant, Rant, McRanty, Rant, Rant blog a while ago. Her full name is Lazy McCrazy, but I don't always type that all out. }:)

Co-sleeping is a positive

Co-sleeping is a positive experience when done in intact families with both bio-parents. Or, if both parents remain single. It really depends on why you are cosleeping, and how you handle it. Like someone already said, google it!

I agree. I did it with both

I agree. I did it with both my little ones when they were small enough and we all loved it.

Excellent way to put it! It's

Excellent way to put it!

It's good for some, not good for some...

Co sleeping was the norm in most of the world up until the last 2 centuries.

I'm sort of a hippie... and we co-slept with our kids when they were babies... it has advantages, especially when you're nursing an infant. But, I realize it's not healthy for everyone, and I wouldn't try to convince someone that it is the best for them. And when I was in that position, I would've appreciated if the people who know it wouldn't work for them would be respectful of the fact that different parenting styles are fine.

It worked well for us.... we were married, we were both the parents of the kids. We slept well. And our sex life didn't suffer for it.... in fact the co-sleeping caused us to be a little creative.

It's not something I have to consider now, because my kids are 12 and 16 and don't sleep with me... but I wouldn't have a co-sleeping arrangement with a younger step child. Again, just my comfort level.

I honestly don't worry myself about other people's parenting choices unless it is impacting my life.

couldn't agree more, at least

couldn't agree more, at least to a certain age.We(me and exhb) had the two younger ones occasionally with us.
It's a massive difference in stepfamilies.I stopped allowing BS to sleep in my room when SO and I got more seriously and BS 7 was fine since he only very seldom stayed with me anyway.Far worse with SD 6(now 7)- she was not accepting it at all that SO and I slept together in one bed and she wasn't.It was a total nightmare, after month of coming in 3 or 4 times every night,she pulled him away from the bed every morning at 4 or 5 am, one day I had her ellbow right in my face when she tried to get me away from him.She invented illnesses and dramas all the timeuntil I had enough and told him that its NOT acceptable and he needed to act on it NOW.Today she is fine.

couldn't agree more, at least

dh and bm coslept with the

dh and bm coslept with the kiddos until they were 4 & 6! :O

he remembers it as a special bonding time.

i don't like sleeping with other people. it's a miracle i've gotten used to dh in the same bed with me.

skids...not gonna happen!

I'm not a fan of co-sleeping,

I'm not a fan of co-sleeping, but I see nothing wrong with it. I always liked my space.
Of course now that my kids are older, I get sandwiched in between my dog and cat and DH gets to cling to the far side.

I'm not against co-sleep, in

I'm not against co-sleep, in fact one of my earliest memories is that I remember sleeping in my parents bed when I was 4 years old. I wouldn't mind co-sleeping with my biokids. But the skids? I feel so uncomfortable with that! knowing Psycho and her neverending drama and accusations, I'm terrified of being accused of doing anything inappropriate.

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