Can't stand it
After SD has been sat in front of the television for 3 hours this morning, which in my opinion is way too much for a 5 year old, SO gave her the iPad AGAIN while he made dinner. She sat in the living room to watch, and hearing it was annoying me, and on top of that, I wanted to watch an episode of Fawlty Towers while I waited for dinner to finish. We've already had the problem before with her watching the iPad in the living room. That time, SO was asleep, and I had to ask her to please go into another room so that I could watch television. This time, he was awake, so I just turned the volume up and tried to watch. He eventually told ME to stop turning up the volume and that I was "bordering on childish". I hate that the little bitch won again and saw the exchange. I hate that this entire vacation, I've gotten no respect. Not my kid, not my problem.... sigh, but SO is making it so hard.
"SO, what do you mean? I'm
"SO, what do you mean? I'm just trying to hear my show? Is there something bothering you?"
I said, "I could always move
I said, "I could always move the TV upstairs..."
Nice. You didn't look
Nice. You didn't look childish. Just play innocent.
Ohhhhhhh wow. No one tells me
Ohhhhhhh wow. No one tells me what to do and not do in my own home.
wow wow wow.
I'd be willing to spend $10 and get Princess some earbuds.
Of course, this would be after SO recovers from two broken kneecaps.
I'm trying to figure out the
I'm trying to figure out the best way to handle this at the moment. I've retreated to the bedroom.
His response was completely
His response was completely unacceptable.
Take the tv to your room or take the ipad away.
Your SD's wants should not come before your own, especially if she can just go to a different room.
Yeah. Now I'm eating dinner
Yeah. Now I'm eating dinner in the bedroom.
Your SD isn't the
Your SD isn't the problem-your SO is for not backing you up and asking her to go to another room. I know that with my DH, it helps me to calmly point out where he's gone wrong, and point out what HE needs to do better. I think if you do that, and try to keep a calm, non-attacking tone when discussing all things regarding SD, things will improve.
Your SD isn't the
Your SD isn't the problem-your SO is for not backing you up and asking her to go to another room. I know that with my DH, it helps me to calmly point out where he's gone wrong, and point out what HE needs to do better. I think if you do that, and try to keep a calm, non-attacking tone when discussing all things regarding SD, things will improve.
Sorry for the double post-my
Sorry for the double post-my iPod touch is acting up.
It's okay. You're right, of
It's okay. You're right, of course, but the whole week has me so angry that I wasn't even able to foot a rational place. Now I'm about to leave for work for the night. UGH.
I agree that SD isn't the
I agree that SD isn't the problem...
In our previous home, we had one television, and DH would plop SD in front of it ALLLLLLLLLLLLL day!!! ALLL day...
I finally put my foot down and threatened to wheel the damn thing out into traffic...Made no damn sense...
Sounds like your SO is using the TV and iPad as replacement for parenting and entertaining his child himself...Which is the larger problem, IMO...DH's excuse would be "I'm making dinner" or "I'm busy" or something...and I'd tell him to take her in the kitchen with him and let her color or give her something constructive to do...or even better...TALK TO HER...
I was able to get through to him because SD has behavior issues, and he knew he needed to do something to help her...
I also talked to him about limiting TV time to certain times of the day and for a certain length of time...He agreed, but I did have to keep reminding him...On the off occasion that he ignored our agreement, I'd usually Bogart and go in and either turn the TV off, or change the channel to whatever I wanted to watch...Which caused problems, but DH knew that I'd be more of an issue to deal with than SD...So he became more consistent with dealing with it himself...
we have 3 tvs but no cable or
we have 3 tvs but no cable or satelite 1 in our room one in bd5 and one in the living room. we have wireless so if i want to watch something i either get on netfilx and watch it or i just put a dvd in. we are not home enough to pay for cable it also gives us more family time together.
I agree, for years I just
I agree, for years I just couldn't stand my SD (most of the time I still can't) but it's not SD - it is my DH! He didn't hae a back bone w/ her....He led her to believe she called the shots in my own home! and that's what got me - Tell him that if something needs to be addressed to do it in private......not in front of a child. Good luck