Well, I see nothing wrong with it. You have your own kids and there is nothing wrong w/wanting pics of them and them alone. I even have pics of just my 2 kids (not my skids) hanging around our house. I am the one who schedules the photo appointments and takes my kids. If SO wants pics of his other kids or all of them together, he can get those done himself.

Do this. A photo as a "family" then the kids separate. Explain it like this.

"you and BM were together and you probably thought that it would be forever, however it ended. I want to always look at the positive side for us but if something was to happen I would want both of us to have photos of are kids growing up without the reminder of the ex in the photo."

My family has an unwritten law. When photos are done there is a "family photo" a "kids photo" and a photo with "one of the parents and the kids" that way if there is a divorce, or heaven forbid a death there are photos that are a good memory.

I don't see why it is even an issue with your DH. I mean why would your mom want pictures of someone else's kids? She wants pictures of her Grandchildren, of course, as all Grandparents do. If my fiance and I ever have a child together (he has 1 4 year old daughter now), I would want to have a picture of just me, my DH and my child without the stepkid in the picture. Of course I would get one with all of us just to make DH happy, but I wouldn't really want it. }:)

DH and I actually just got PISSED at BM for this. She took the skids for a picture with Santa. We had already gotten one of just DD8mo, because my grandparents/extended family have never met his kids, why would they want a picture of them with DD? DH totally understood and agreed. BM had their picture taken with HER BOYFRIEND'S KID. And that was the ONLY one. She's been with this boyfriend for about a month. Apparently she didn't think that maybe DH wouldn't want BM's boyfriend's kid in a Christmas keepsake of his kids. How about her BF's ex? Would she want a pic with her XH's new GF's kids? Don't think so. How about BM's mom, or DH's parents? But BM doesn't really think of anyone but herself, so whatever. DH and I will take them on their own, and maybe and extra of Skids and DD.

I don't see an issue with your logic...

I get pictures done all the time with just DS for my family...Most of my family has never met SD...I've always told DH and MIL if they want pictures of the kids together, they can schedule it if it's important...So far it hasn't been...*shrugs*

our Family pic last year worked out so beautifully I have to share this. So there's dh and me, and 6 kids, each with a signif other. his kids are very clingy and when we said it was time to bunch together in front of the tree they clammored to get on one side. dh and i got in the middle. my kids got on the other side. it just worked out that my kids are a little smaller and if you draw a line smack down the center, it cuts all of dh kids out but keeps us in with my kids. it's the perfect photo. i printed full pics for all his family, and cropped the assholes out for my family. one of these days he's going to see it and think my mom or sister cut his kids out. lolol. the one in my office is us with my kids too. he he he

not sure if we'll get everyone in a pic this year. i wont care.

you can take pics of his kid alone and with yours. tell him the ones alone are for his mom bc she doesn't know your sons.

I take pictures of all 3, then I take pics of DD10 and BD3 together without SD. I try not to make it obvious. I even let DD10 stay home from school one day and I took her and BD3 to get professional pictures done. I did not tell him and I did not let him see but I put them in their scrapbooks that I make for them and I gave some to my family. I actually try not to take any pictures of SD15 at all and she lives with us.

She needed a picture of herself for school a few weeks ago. She had to go thru about 4 photo albums just to find one of her. Oops!

I agree a "family photo" with all of you would be best, if he's so hard up about getting a pic of all the kids. Otherwise I don't see anything wrong with taking pictures of just yours, you can always get individuals done of SS.

For me, since our D is an 'ours' and I've been involved since SS was 2- it felt a natural extension to have the kids pictured together. My mom and dad both welcome the combined duo (but then again I come from a blended family myself)