It seemed to me people weren't upset with her for admitting there's a problem.I think they may have been more concerned about the bitterness and resentment of her words about a small child.

I also have an issue with constantly making excuses for them. Heck, THAT'S why I am so frustrated. Frustrated at myself. I jumped on the bandwagon with the autism thing, I did tons of research on how to help him, as well as, getting him to two different doctors. He doesn't have autism. I jumped on the bandwagon like my husband (for a small time) in thinking that because the childs bio mom is so horrible that we should go above and beyond to make the kid happy. Which I now see is WRONG, we will do nothing but have a spoiled, demanding brat in our future. This is where I'm at ---- I'm tired of the blame game. I'm tired of, "well, maybe we should buy him more toys, maybe we should take him to fun places everytime we see him, we should do whatever it takes to make him happy." THE WORLD DOESN'T WORK THAT WAY!!!! When you or I have a crappy day or go through a rough patch, I don't see a multitude of people bringing me gifts, taking me out, giving me whatever I desire! That's ludicris! Not to get political, but I beleive that's what's wrong with our society to begin with. We all wanted to give our children what we didn't have, and as a result, we created brats. We have created a generation of kids that are now in their twenties and thirties, that we spent hundreds and thousands of dollars on their four year universities so that they could major in art, all the while know that once they graduated they wouldn't be able to find a good paying job in an art studio. Now, they are in debt, most parents are picking up the tab. They are out protesting that the governement and tax payers, such as myself, "owe" them something. They are sitting in tents complaining because they can't find a job they deem "fit" for them. It's much easier to get rich when things are handed to you, versus having to actual work for them. I say, if you want to be rich, work for it, don't demand something for nothing. Good Lord, I believe I got way of track with this one! Sorry! lol

But yes, I do belive that the problem is that no one is willing to admit that their perfect little angel, that shares their dna may be "strange."

What's weird to me is that in school, there was always a few kids that you knew just weren't all there, if you know what I'm saying. In the words of Chris Rock (I'm paraphrasing somewhat) "what happened to ol fashion "crazy." In this day and time all we seem to want to do is label someone. Create a desease, get the child doped up to the point they are zombies and then get them their every want and desire to make life "easier." We as a society, have taken the "work" out of raising kids. We don't want to punish them for doing something bad because we might hurt their feelings or they won't like us. I love both my parents and I respect them. They were NOT my best friends as a child, they were my teachers. They didn't leave raising me up to my teachers in school. My PARENTS taught me right from wrong. I did not fear them, I respected them. I had tons of love which helped at a young age to know that if I was punished for something it was because they were either trying to protect me or to instill in my morals and values. Because they were my parents instead of my best buds as a child, I now see them as my best friends as an adult, and I have the utter most respect for them.

I've often likened being a guilty-disney-doormat-BFF non-"parent" to being an alcoholic.

Until you admit there's a problem, it is "everyone ELSE'S problem."

Guilty dad to SM: "you just don't LIKE my children or any children period"
"you don't know what it's like"
"my children are different--late bloomers, etc"
"you're jealous!"
"you're the adult here; they're just kids"
"you've got a problem; YOU need to see a shrink"
"my children are perfectly normal"

And on and on it goes.

The soft bigotry of low expectations, lack of responsibility/structure/boundaries accompanied with being given adult privileges/status is quite literally a HIGH for both the guilty/BFF parent and the budding sociopath child. Aiding greatly to the child's narcissism and lack of empathy for others.

It's a downward spiral of self-destruction for everyone involved until someone hits bottom and decides to do something about it.

It isn't easy for parents to accept that their child may not be "normal". We all want our kids to be the perfect child, student… It's normal for parents to go through a period of denial.

There are so many red flags in that blog. The child’s isn't typical. How many of you know a 3 year old that will sit still for an hour? And to just sit with a blank stare for an hour isn’t normal. Maybe he isn't austic, but something isn't right. Getting a child evaluated involves more than a visit to the doctor. Some of the things needed are:
Observations (home and classroom)
questionnaires completed by parents and teachers
sight exam
hearing exam
speech evaluations
reports from social workers (depending on funding, some day cares have social workers on site)
reports from the early intervention team
reports from the child's doctor
cognitive test
personality test
psychological tests